SERIOUSLY?! FI being weird and I'm not sure why.

posted 3 years ago in Music
  • poll: Weird for him to write a song for our wedding?
    Yes : (9 votes)
    19 %
    No : (39 votes)
    81 %
    Other, explain : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2139 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Instrumental? Not weird at all! It’s rather romantic if you ask me…

    Post # 4
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    An instrumental is not at all weird!!

    I had an ex who was extrememly talented musically.  He wrote me the most beautiful song for my birthday years ago.  It was a piano instrumental and absolutely amazing.  He specially recorded it for me on a grand piano (it was him playing). 


    Pity that was the only good thing about him…

    Instrumentals can be stunning – but if you have asked him to do it he has got to WANT to do it too in some ways??

    Post # 5
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it would be sooo romantic!!! Why does he think it would be weird??  Does he know you mean just instrumental?

    Post # 6
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Maybe he is hesitant because he would feel a lot of pressure for it to be amazing -not that his work isn’t typically amazing, but its for your guys’ wedding so it ups the ante.

    I think it would be amazing to have that in your ceremony though!!

    Post # 8
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think it’s weird that he wants to do someone else’s wedding and not his own. Your man is probably shy, even though he is a musician.

    My FI also is a musician; I asked if he could write something for our wedding and have his cousin play in on guitar. He said no, it’s to personal and he would be embarrassed. He has made a fool of himself on stage, yet won’t write something for us to have his cousin play.

    How long have you been together? FI just recently played a song he wrote for me not too long ago, and we have been together for 7 years. I think it takes men a long time to open up like that.

    Post # 9
    687 posts
    Busy bee

    @adoc86:  I agree, it’s probably too high-pressure for him.

    Post # 12
    2139 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I want to hear why people voted that it would be weird!

    Post # 14
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    It’s different when it’s your friends and family. 6000 strangers is one thing, your own wedding is another.


    Post # 16
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @Laurenskii:  No that’s not weird at all!!! Although I’m a musician myself and so is my FH so maybe I’m a little biased 🙂

    Maybe he is very shy about that sort of thing? It’s probably easier for him to write music for someone else’s wedding because he is more detached from it. Music is so personal so he is probably hesitant to put all those feelings out there in front of everyone he knows. It would be really awesome if he wrote some music for your wedding though. I think I know kind of how he feels because I’ve been there.

    I composed a song in high school on flute for my mom, just a short piece, maybe only a couple of minutes long. She’s heard it, and my dad had asked me to play it at her 50th birthday party a couple of years ago. But I didn’t, mostly because there were like 100 people there and I felt the music was too personal since I barely knew most of them. So I didn’t do it, but now I kind of regret it Frown.

    My FH plays piano and he only recently played a song that he wrote for me FOUR YEARS AGO, after we met for the first time. I guess he just didn’t want to open up like that, or he wasn’t ready for it.

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