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I think it is awesome that FI is telling his Mom not to call you about this stuff and talk to your Mom instead!!!
This is how a SO should respond when this stuff arises, I know your FMIL might be driving you crazy, but it looks like you picked an awesome partner! Congrats on that!
wow. crazy, but despite that it just seems like she is caught up in the frazzle of the wedding planning, and she wasnt going out of her way to intentionally hurt you....and im happy to hear that you have a good relationship with her, that is important!
But yea, i flipped over my STD's and having to hash out the guestlist THEN with extra people popping up left and right...i can only imagine having to deal with a last second issue of 3 uninvited guests!!!!
Good luck, May 1 is almost here!!! :) yay!
I'd imagine she just wants everyone to be there because it's a special thing with her son getting married...however that doesn't make what she did okay.
I'd just say she probably got excited and just isn't thinking about how stressful it makes things for you. Some people get a little crazy around weddings and I'm sure she'll calm down afterwards - especially since you two seem to get along normally. And I totally get why you'd be stressed (I'm stressing about our guest list already) but I think the main thing is to be sure not to say anything you regret.
But I think having your FI deal with her is the best thing. That way you don't have to worry about upsetting her AND you don't have to worry about addtional guests.
Best of luck - and congrats! You're in the home stretch!
what the heck is wrong with people! Thank goodness your FI is awesome and told his mom like it is! Go FI!!!
Thanks for the support, Ladies!
Yes, my FI is amazing for having my back. It's always a little touchy when moms are involved.
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Ok, let me preface this by saying that I really do love my FMIL. As far as in laws go, I am very lucky. However, this past week with her has caused me to have my only 2 bridal breakdowns.
Friday - I'm back home in TN for my bachelorette party. I get an email from FMIL saying that 2 people who had originally said they weren't coming (without sending in the RSVP card, BTW!), can now come. REALLY?! 20 minutes later, I get another email asking which table we could fit them into. How about the table at their own house! Luckilly, I was with my mom who kept me (somewhat) calm from killing my FMIL. I sent back that if she could figure out where to put them, it was fine. Crisis averted.
Monday - I get a text from FMIL saying that she was too chicken to call me, but her Aunt had just called confirming that her daughter in law and grandchildren were coming to the wedding. EXCUSE ME?! They weren't even invited!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, basically, we had to accomodate 3 extra people who were never even on the guest list. I lost my s#!t. I called my mom crying and yelling. She tried to calm me down, but it was pointless. I calmed down enough to call FMIL and tell her there was no way we could accomodate them. We were almost at capacity. Sorry, they're not invited, they cant come (but in a much nicer way). She sounded all upset and was like "well, what are we supposed to do?" SERIOUSLY?! What are you supposed to do? You're not supposed to freaking call me TWELVE days away from my wedding with this stupid crap!!! That's what you're supposed to do.
After another frantic phone call with my mom, I chilled a bit and made room for the uninvited guests.
My wonderful FI called his mom and said that under no circumstances is she to come to me with this type of thing again. If someone asks if they can come that have not RSVP'd (or were even invited), tell them NO. Or, talk to my mom about it.
What on earth could have compelled her to call me about this sort of nonsense.
SERIOUSLY!?