Post # 1
I need to vent! I sent out e-mails two month in advance letting my BM know the amount of the dresses so they could prepare. (Thinking this is enough time to budget) Then I get a phone call from my MOH–she can’t afford the dress right now and asked if I could lend her the money until she could pay me back, in June.
Flash forward to 2 months later: no money and no mention of paying me back. The dress in total cost $185, but the money doesn’t bother me it is the whole idea of asking the Bride and then not talking about it. I don’t understand.
I have been listening to endless phone calls about how she went on a cruise with her hubby, went to Disney World (she lives in FL) and getting her nails done. Blah Blah Blah. All the while I am biting my tongue. I need some advice. What would you do in this situation?
Post # 3
@tobemurphy10:Well this is a sticky situation. If you told her 2 months ahead of time that the dress was $185, than yeah, she should’ve been able to afford it. Can’t afford $200 bucks in 2 months? That doesn’t sound right. Sometimes, BM’s and groomsmen feel a bit resentful if you ask them to buy/rent their own dress/tux for a wedding that’s not theirs. It’s understandable, so most brides/grooms just pay for it themselves. It might just be better to pay for the dress, because honestly, the last thing you want to do is fight over a dress with your BM/MOH before your wedding. You have tons of other stuff to worry about, this shouldn’t be one of them. I would just say to buy the dress for her, even though you did tell her 2 months ahead of time.
Or maybe another option is to just tell her and be straight forward. Tell her that you asked her to pay for her dress and that you told her 2 months ahead of schedule. If she still has a problem with it, and really doesn’t want to pay for the dress, than there’s no way out of it. I don’t think you’re gonna kick her out of your bridal party just bc of a dress. Just swallow it and buy it for her. She may not be a good friend to you right now, but don’t let that make you become bad yourself. Be a good bride, be a good friend.