Post # 1
So we have booked our flight and hotel for Vegas.! I let both sets of parents know of hotels “around” us, we wanted everyone to be close.This was a month ago!!!
My mother in law told us that we need some time alone in Vegas for ourselves and to make sure we book an extra day at the beginning or end for ourselves. Well we did just that. Booked a Sunday and a Thursday exrta for just the FI and I.
Well last Friday I got an e-mail from her stating that she booked the SAME days for her flight
and the same HOTEL for her stay.
I really don’t know what to think right now. Am I taking things to seriously or is this whole situation just crazy. I feel like I shouldn’t have to be dealing with this kind of issue during my “wedding week”.=(
Help me out bees.
Hmmm.. Maybe I should have also stated that she is going ALONE, her husband/FI dad passed away when he was 2. ANd she already has the schdule of events planned from the time she arrives until we leave – were leaving before her on THURSDAY!
She knew where we were staying. She also knew all of the trouble we were going through to find “OUR” special hotel and plan our “SPECIAL” trip. Now when I give her all of the details I find out that she is booking the same exact dates and same exact hotel.
It wouldnt be a problem for me if she didn’t specifically state that we needed time for ourselves…. then SHE booked the same days.
Maybe I do sound rediculous – but you don’t know her. She hounded us for a month to figure our stuff out so that she could book her stuff. Am I completely blind as to not think it was because she wanted everything her way!
I keep hearing that it doesn’t matter the hotel is big, how can it not matter? It is the principle behind it. She knew what we wanted for ourselves and OUR time.
Post # 3
I fail to see the problem. Do you need to pick her up from the airport? Vegas Hotels are big enough that you won’t necessarily see her. Who cares what she booked, keep the time for yourself.
Post # 4
I don’t think this is necessarily an issue. Personally I feel if your having a DW there has to be some expectation that people will stay longer. We will have the same thing happen in that a lot of people are using my wedding as there vacation. Now if she starts saying you all should hang out and plan dinner/breakfast dates thats an issue.
Post # 5
Just because she is there, doesn’t mean you have to entertain her. Its likely she figured that she would also take an extra day or two to spend with her husband or to see the sites if she is going to be there anyway. I would let it go since I dont see it as being a problem or a slight towards you.
EDIT: Inquire as to what her plans are. If she says she has plans, then nothing to worry about. If she says “to be with you two” kindly let her know that “this day” new husband and I plan on being together but you are sure to have lots of fun the rest of the time with her.
Post # 6
Why did she specifically tell you to book extra time for you and him to be alone if she is going to be there too?
Post # 7
Did she think you were staying Weds-Monday??
Post # 8
I agree with the other ladies. She might have decided to have some extra time for herself as well. “Don’t borrow trouble” as the saying goes. Unless she’s trying to arrange things for all of you to do in those days I wouldn’t consider it a problem. 🙂
Post # 9
Vegas hotels are HUGE…unless she managed to book a room right next to yours I wouldn’t expect “foul play”. If she brings it up, just make it clear that she shouldn’t have the expectation of spending any time with you guys on your “extra” days b/c you plan on having some couple time.
Post # 10
Hi Jamaica Bride,
Knowing her – if we get our room first, those will be her intentions.
Post # 11
@lonelystar63: Oh man…in that case I would call the hotel and let them know that you would like your reservation information to be kept confidential. You can also make sure that you aren’t booked in the same tower as your FMIL.
Post # 12
What’s on her schedule of events? Do they involve you? Before you jump to the conclusion that she’s doing this to be around you maybe she’s just really excited to go on a vacation? She may have absolutely no interest in hanging out with you guys.
Having worked at a hotel for a few years they are absolutely not allowed to tell you who is staying with them w/o a confirmation number so I doubt she’d be able to get your room info unless you gave that to her as well.
Could u give her a call and tell her your thinking of changing your dates and coming in earlies? See if that sparks something in her, like does she get mad or does she not care? if she doesn’t care than that would lead me to believe she has no intention of spending that time with you. Just a thought.
Post # 13
If I were her, I would probably book the same hotel as well. Its a BIG town and a long walk to meet up with people. I would want to be close as well. She may be over-bearing, but I dont see anything she has done (at least the way its being presented here) as malicious, annoying maybe, but not bad.
I would stress again to let her know which day or days are for you and your husband and let her know and suggest something she can do those days without you, if she hasn’t already planned it.
Post # 14
FI and I stayed in the same hotel room as FI’s parents and we hardly saw them..(they like to gamble until morning) FI’s dad likes to go to vegas and FI is his ride. I would say she may just have wanted to have some time for herself too. Even if she did intend to join you..you can easily avoid her in Vegas..she’ll have plenty of slots to keep her company..
Post # 15
You may not have seen the post where I stated that she knew all the troubles we were having finding the hotel for “US”. She knew that we wanted it to be like OUR time together and put alot of money into staying at this particular hotel. Bellagio. I also gave both sets of parents information on hotels around us.
She said she did this because she wanted a nice hotel. Caesers Palace is RIGHT across the street and LESS expensive.
GOD HELP ME!!!!
Post # 16
personally i would have picked the Bellagio as well, its a better hotel and IT. IS. HUGE!
ANd she already has the schdule of events planned from the time she arrives until we leave
does this not mean that she already has plans for herself? if so i dont see what the problem is – am i missing something??