- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
My fiance and I are in our 30’s and this is our 1st wedding.
It seems like ever since we got engaged there has been problem after problem. Starting with my cousin deciding to get married and managed to get their reception before us so we couldn’t get married in May because they were. They had been engaged for awhile and were suppose to have a destination wedding but right after I announced my engagement they decided to have a local wedding.
Than I came to terms with that because I found a gorgeous place for us to have our wedding… it is about 3 hours from where we live. The deposit was put down and the date was set (Sept 15th, 2012).
Every since it has just been chaos. Family members saying they aren’t going because it is to far.. even my fiance’s father! I have spent money on things months ago that I don’t like anymore at all!!! My colors are all screwed up!! I even went as far as ordering and paying for 3 new bridesmaids dresses because I wanted to change the colors – when the original dresses came in I decided I like the original colors better! regardless, that was almost 1,000$ in dresses that I now ave to sell on ebay cause my fiance is not impressed.
There is so much stress now and for what…because it seems like every week someone else is telling me they can’t go to my wedding.. and that really hurts my feelings.
All the money I spent on stuff I don’t want (we were going to have a vintage style wedding but now that we are 3 months left I think it will look tacky and now I just want a regular wedding with a few different things) and the fact that there is only going to be like 30 people attending the wedding… and they have to drive there and rent a hotel room (we booked a block of rooms and are making welcome bags) .. my mom says not to expect cards with money in them because of the money people have to spend just to go to our wedding!!
I don’t want to sound selfish but really why bother having a wedding if we aren’t going to walk away with a little savings to get us ahead a little. We could just take the rest of the money we were going to spend and use that for savings. My parents are paying the reception, his family hasnt helped at all and has not shown any interest in the wedding
The only thing that has gone well for this wedding is my gorgeous allure couture wedding dress!!! But it’s ridiculous to follow through with a wedding simply because I want to wear the dress -which is paid for in full already!!! It’s really pretty though and I really will be devastated if I can’t wear it 🙁
At the end of the day, I just want to be married to this man!!! At this point we could go to city hall and get married …but I think I would look real silly wearing an Allure Couture wedding dress at city hall …
What should I do????