Seriously? (this is a vent, please don't give me actual advice)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I’m just offering a virtual hug. When it rains, it pours. And darlin’, you’re caught in a monsoon. Hang in there. Have some wine, say screw it to the painting, enlist the help of friends to do the grocery shopping and food cooking…. just do what you need to do to get through. Remember that there is no shame in asking for someone to throw you a life ring when you are drowning.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

Oh no!! Well first of all, I’m very sorry for the loss of your grandma. I don’t have advice on whether you should move your wedding day or not. But throughout reading the whole thing, it sounds like at least your FI hasn’t done anything wrong. Maybe he can offer you a bit more help around the house with things, but right now I think you need him to lean on and everything will be ok. Hang in there. Deep breaths. I wish you the best.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Gentle cyber hugs from SoCal.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Hugs to you. I am so sorry for your utterly shitty week from hell and I am sorry about your Grandmother. I thing think the above advice is good – drink wine and get some helpers to come sort some shit out for you. x

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

🙁 virtual hug

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

jadlnc:  GIANT hugs – none of that is signs about your wedding.  All of them would probaby be bad enough on their own but compiled with a crazy work week, a wedding, and lack of sleep it’s just ridiculous.  Your wedding will be great and it will all be wonderful.  Find 20 minutes, have a glass of wine and a bubble bath and you’ll feel better

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Oh, that’s terrible. Big hugs, OP. You’ll get through this somehow. AFter the wedding give yourself a day to cry with grief, relief, unwinding, whatever!

Big big hugs

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sending you a big hug.  I have kids and a full time job too.  Sometimes, I think I am never going to get it all done, plus plan the wedding.  Then I remind myself, all I really need is a minister, my groom, and my family.  That’s it.  It doesn’t have to be perfect this time around.  I don’t care if I have the prettiest flowers or perfect hair.  All I need is to be married and be surrounded by people I love.

I am sorry about your grandmother.  Maybe you can arrange a time to visit her grave.  I don’t think she’s want you to canel your wedding.

As for the kid puking at inconvenient times…that always happens, doesn’t it?  hang in there. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That’s a terrible run of bad luck! You will definatly pull through and you will have a great wedding day! This series of events would be hard for anyone. I hope things start to go your way. Sorry to hear about your grandma 🙁

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

i’m so sorry for everything you are dealing with. just remember just because things are hard right now, don’t think your marriage is a bad idea. just remember it will get better. life has ups and downs. i hope everything starts to go better for you soon!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

jadlnc:  Sending hugs and positive vibes.  I’m so very sorry for the loss of your grandmother!  You are certainly having more than your share of bad luck right now but think of it this way, the universe now owes you * big time * and you are due for a huge blessing, more than you can imagine right now.  And it’s on its way to you.  Hang in there.  Focus on the joy of your wedding as much as you can.  It can only get better from here, right?

Post # 13
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

jadlnc:  Argh!!! That’s a lot to take in.  At the very least your dad should move your grandmother’s funeral by one or two days so it’s not on your wedding.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow that’s a lot to throw at you! Have to take it as it comes, I am a firm believer that we are handed things in life that we are not only capable of taking on but it’s a challenge to ourselves and how we can come out the other side a better person.

 

The wedding is about you and him. Anyone else who is there is a nice addition but so long as he is waiting for you at the altar, all will be well. After the wedding if it’s possible, take some of your leftover flowers (if you have flowers that is) to her gravesite…or press them in a good heavy book to take with you when you do make it up there. But I am a sentimental being and that might be a little sappy for people 🙂

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