Post # 1
Soo, my Boyfriend or Best Friend hopefully soon to be Fiance and I are great friends with a lesbian couple that we have known for years. THey run one of those cute antique photo shops and that happens to be where we met them, we were getting our photos taken by them we all just hit it off really well. I adore those ladies more than I could ever express to them, they mean so much to us. Anyways, one of these lovelies happens to be an ordained minister and since Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been talking about getting married and our wedding so much we both decided we would not want anyone else but her to marry us. When we asked her she became teary eyed and yelled a big fat YES! So excited for this she is amazing and couldn’t imagin anyone else announcing us as man and wife. But here’s the kicker… a woman that i work with, lets call her Wendy, whom i had planned to invite to the wedding even though i’m not a big fan of hers and was really only inviting her due to everyone else I work with being invited and didn’t want to leave her out, was asking me about the wedding and various details that i had decided on. When I mentioned that our lesbian friend would be marrying us, she nearly flipped out her shoes! And stated quote unquote, “how can you be married by those people?!?! In front of God and everyone!! You should be ashamed for even thinking of that and know that God will punish you for such Blasphemy!” OMFG!!! I could not believe that she would say such a thing! I have always known she was what they call a Born-again christian and was a bit over the top with her faith, but Gez Louise that was just too extreme! I have decided polite or not she will NOT be invited to my wedding! How dare she! If I wasn’t at work I probably would have said to keep her back-aswards way of thinking to herself!
On another note… Is it not Ironic that a lesbian can become an ordained minister and commense the marriage of two people in love and yet cannot legally marry the woman of her dreams? Quite sideways thinking if you ask me…
Post # 4
Ugh. No wonder you aren’t a “big fan” of hers.
And yeah, sideways logic for sure.
Post # 5
I always get a little nervous about threads like this because they nave the potential to turn into Christian bashing. This woman is an idiot regardless of her religion. She should be ashamed of herself.
Post # 6
I was married by a lesbian who is an ordained minester in a “super” church here. That lady is just ignorant. I wouldn’t be inviting her now.
Post # 7
LOL you definitely do not want that woman at your wedding! some people!
Post # 8
@LMD84: Yeah, she definitely doesn’t represent all Christians, myself included.
Post # 9
I am a born again Christian, and this lady is just crazy. She isn’t even a close friend and shouldn’t be saying anything like that to you. If one of my close friends were getting married by a lesbian minister, I certainly wouldn’t say anything about it and still go; heck, it’s not my wedding.
Post # 11
Perfect. Now you don’t have to feel bad about not inviting her. If she brings up her lack of invitation, you can simply say “I’m sorry, I know you’re offended by our choice of officiant.”
Post # 12
Yikes. I would send her a thank you card for freeing up a space on my guest list!
…well. I wouldn’t really. But I would think about doing it.
Post # 13
And her behavior is not representative of what Christ represented, so she might need to take a closer look at how well that ‘born again’ thing is working out for her.
Post # 14
She sounds extremely bigoted. That’s her problem. I’m still so surprised whenever I hear a story like this — come on people, get over your prejudices already!
Now, one small point — this is not to say that you should in any way hide your friend’s identity, but you don’t have to call her your “lesbian friend.” She’s your friend, plain and simple, like anyone else.
Post # 15
She did you a favor by revealing her true self now, and freeing up a space on your guest list for someone who deserves it.
Post # 16
Well she’s a bitch, isn’t she?
My cousin was ordained to marry us. She’s not only a lesbian but also atheist. Your co-workers head probably would have exploded if she witnessed the “abomination” that was my ceremony.