Post # 1
My day started off not so good with my DH, stupid argument…
then my co-worker makes a rude comment..pls note Ive only been working here a few months…
I walk back into my office and she tells me “come over here, what is this? pointing to my belly? You need to work on that”
I said I am well aware of my issues. I have actually been looking into joining a gym, I don’t need someone who doesn’t know me that well to say something like that
I wanna crawl into a ball and just cry….
Post # 3
@Daizy914: oh no- what a horrible day:( Sorry you have such a rude coworker- I can’t believe anyone would say that. I hope DH and you makeup by the time you get home from work:) *hugs*
Post # 4
what a prize bitch!
you have so much more restraint than me, I probably would have said ‘Don’t worry about me, we need to find you a surgeon to work on this!’ And pointed at her face.
….some people might call me agressive… haha
Post # 5
Unless your a stripper, she had NO right to saw that to you! You should of pointed at her face and said “what’s that??! You need to work on that!”
ignore rude people!!! They only do that to make themselves feel better!!
Post # 6
@graygodess20: great minds… Haha
Post # 7
Bullying you like that can constitute harrassment in the work place, and HR people usually take that very seriously. You may want to consider filing a complaint.
Post # 8
I also want to add that this coworker just lost a significant amount of weight, I don’t know what she looked like before, I am happy for her, its hard work
I don’t have the balls to say those things to people. I am very non-confrontational and its not a good thing.
Post # 9
I’m sure your belly is fine. Her personality it NOT!
What a JERK!
Post # 10
@Daizy914: I don’t know why I continue to be shocked and horrified by some of the completely inappropriate, out of line, and utterly rude things people will say to others, but, somehow I am.
I am so sorry that your co-worker would even THINK of making that comment to you. It may not seem like this to you right now, but her rudeness says FAR more about her than it does about any physical flaws which you may or may not possess.
I wish I could give you a big hug!
Post # 11
@Caddyshack: funny thing is, we don’t have a dept per se, but we share the office with the HR director and she heard the whole thing and didn’t say a word
Post # 12
What the freak. Unless your job is a being a model she shouldn’t be commenting on your stomach. If someone at work said that to me I would freak out.
Post # 13
@Daizy914: I am pretty sure that belly comment is harrassment, and I would report it.
Post # 14
Why on earth did you let her have it?Bullying can only go away if you stand up and talk.To her or someone superior in your workplace
Post # 15
What a shame that your coworker felt it was appropriate to say something like that to you. Armchair psychologist here – she probably still feels insecure about her body and is insulting you to feel better about herself… sorry that she took it out on you!
I hope your day gets better, sending good thoughts your way!
Post # 16
Even if you were huuuuuge, what right is it of hers to say those things?
If someone is bigger by choice and happy, a comment like that will just create a hostile environment. If someone is bigger and unhappy, it will make them feel worse – and probably result in comfort eating and further gain. In the end, it just results in the speaker looking like a fool.
A guy at work, when I was a bit younger, used to say things to me about my looks, and I managed to ignore it, until one day I just burst into tears, and there was nearly a fist fight when my friends realised what he had been saying. Shortly after, he left work, and has since reapplied for his job – my coworkers gave such negative opinions of his conduct that our new manager was disgusted and didn’t even return his call.
Bullies always get their just desserts.