- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
DH is a choir director for 5-12. Last night his music board put on their annual fundraiser. They serve soup and sandwiches and then the kids perform songs that they have been working on since school began.
I got a lot of congrats and hugs on our pregnancy announcement, and in general had a wonderful time. I came home about 20 minutes earlier than DH because he stayed to see if they needed any help with cleanup. During that time he had a conversation with a gal who isn’t on the music board but likes to have her hands in everything so she stayed to oversee everything. DH came home and said they were talking…and I was appauled at the conversation.
DH: Thanks. We are so excited.
Lady: I hope you don’t plan on finding out the gender! Don’t find out!
Lady: Because you and your wife need to take that time to enjoy each other and dream about what it could be.
DH: We’d like knowing. Plus we want to find out so we can plan. We’re discovering it’s harder to find gender neutral stuff.
Lady: Well, if you have to find out the gender THAT early in order to plan then maybe you don’t have time for kids in the first place!
What the actual fuck?! Apparently over 60% of us are too busy for kids then. Now, I KNOW she only said this because she knew she can get away with it. One, she’s on the school board. She dictates DH’s pay every two years, so she thinks she can just say whatever she wants. She has done this before to other teachers (including DH). She will just say stupid crap and then smirk and say, “I’m on the board.” Second, everyone knows DH is a very passive guy. Too passive to say anything back. That’s where he and I differ. Had I been there, I probably would have let her have it with both barrels.
DH could see I was pretty irate about it, so he turns to me and says, “I have a song that describes you right now” and proceeds to play “Break Stuff” by Limp Bizkit. Of course he had me giggling after that. He always knows how to calm a situation down.
We did have a discussion on how much info to give about baby. Stuff like this is going to happen, but I think I get more upset when it happens to DH because he is so innocent and overjoyed that I am pregnant, like, even more than me. If he could hold a big sign that says “I am going to be a dad” everyday, I think he would. I told him I don’t go into detail. I would have just said, “We aren’t sure yet.”
This was just a vent, and I am not focused on it because I know this will happen more and more, and it is probably a good thing it happened to DH and I could revisit our baby information conversation 🙂