Post # 1
Ok so I have an opportunity to move locations from Iraq to the UAE. Talked to Mr about it, talked to Mommy about it, but apparently my direct supervisor, who happens to be somewhat of a friend of mine is taking it personal. Seriously dude. Bees, if I get this location my timeframe for not seeing Mr will go from 6-7 months to no more than every 3 months helloooo. This isn’t the first time we’ve come to the ” I want another location road” but he’s so set on it being that I’m running from something and he keeps asking if I just don’t want to be here with him….If you’re lost, yeah I’m still talking about my direct supervisor not my Mr. Honestly you guys, wouldn’t you take a pay cut if it meant that you’d be able to see your S.O. more, especially since they’re struggling with cancer….or am I not thinking straight?
I live near Abu Dhabi and Dubai (UAE)
Mr gets to visit
Better living accomodations
Less travel time when trying to go home
Its freaking beautiful out there
My workload is decreased.
I take a paycut (from 6 figures to 5)
I’d have to stay overseas longer
I have to move my crap again…lol
If you noticed at no point does it mention leaving my direct supervisor behind… could it be because he has no bearing on my personal situation…you got it. He’s so offended and for what? Mind you, I think his management kills suck monkey balls and he shows favoritism to certain people, but that’s his paycheck not mine. Its like he thinks I’m betraying him or something, and if he’s so concerned about what people think shouldn’t he change not everyone else. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR. My only fear is that he won’t sign off on it because he wants me to stay here which will make things worse I think, since he’s already gave me the guilt trip about leaving this location once.
I’m so irritated. Have any of you had a friend or co-worker do this? Am I really wrong for wanting to leave for my own personal reasons?
Post # 3
your fi has cancer? if that happened and we were living apart, i would quit my job to be with him. definitely move closer.
Post # 4
@kitzy: yes, we found out over a year ago, but if I quit my job then we’ll both be un-employed and it would really get us no where. I’m going to go as long as my D.S doesn’t CB me because he and the guy above him have to sign off on the swap between another girl and myself.
Post # 6
It’s not personal, it’s business.
It’s a huge personal choice for YOU but for your supervisor, it’s nothing but business. I can see how he might be frustrated by losing a valued worker but can he actually hold you back?
One phrase you wrote sticks out to me…he thinks you’re “running away from something”…? Does he take your friendship a bit more seriously than he should? If that’s the case, that’s another point to add to your “pro” list…getting away from a supervisor with inappropriate feelings.
Post # 7
Oh I hope you can do it! Sounds like a great fix! I agree that a paycut is worth it for all the pros you listed 😛
Post # 8
Move! i would def take a paycut if it meant more time with hubby, especially in his condition. – Thinking about you and your family –
Post # 9
@PinkPinstripes: what I should have added to my pro-list in reference to him and work, is that it’ll save whatever friendship we have left. He’s annoying, emotional, and show favoritism and everyone in the office sees it, no not to me, but to my one of my best friends. People in the office have lost respect for him, I’ve told him and it must go in one ear and out the other. SMH. I think the only inappropriate part of us working together would be the fact that he doesn’t separate work and friendship and the lines get noticeably crossed in the office.
Post # 10
I’m praying (literally) that I get this swap. Mr is happy about it even with the paycut. I’m so glad he supports me on it.
Post # 11
@TLH21: I’m sorry to hear about your FI. I just said a prayer for him. You are very strong. I hope you get your transfer.
Post # 12
Move closer to your man. Taking a tiny bit of a salary cut would be worth it. At least you would keep a job, since many are still trying to find one.
Post # 13
@SoontobeMrsA: Thank you for the prayers we need all we can get. The transfer I guess will be if its supposed to happen
Post # 14
@TLH21: I was originally going to say tell youre supervisor to “suck it” but then decided that probably wouldn’t go over well.
Post # 15
sounds like you already know what to do – why should your supervisor have any bearing on that? It almost sounds creepy, like he has a crush on you. Whatever his fixation is, it can’t be healthy, since he obv. doesn’t even factor in to this decision for you, yet you seem to be very important to him. And if his management skills suck “monkey balls” anyway, it should be obvious!
Post # 16
You gotta do whats best for you and your partner.. I wouldnt even think twice about this.