Post # 1
So, probably one of the most awkward moments of my life was when my friends asked me what they would be wearing for the wedding…
Yeah, I never asked them to be in the wedding and I am having 4 bridesmaids already. 2 are really close friends and the other 2 are my twin sisters.
I dont want to have a crazy huge bridal party bc we are having a destination wedding and I need SOME people in the aisles lol
Ugh, just tell me I’m not being insensitive… I cant have everyone in the wedding, I dont even want to. Sorry, I guess this is just a vent, but has anyone else gone through this?
Post # 3
that is awkward! what did you say to them?
Post # 4
oh wow…. AWKWARD! and actually yea, one of my friends basically asked if she was going to be in the wedding and even though she was a good friend I never thought about her being a bridesmaid… I was so shocked and in a moment of panic said yes… and I have been regreting it ever since.
Post # 5
One of my friends implied that FI and I were fighting over whether or not to make her MOH. Nope, I’m just contemplating kicking you out.
Post # 6
Uber Awkward. I don’t even have anything to say and that takes a lot.
Post # 7
OMG YES! My cousin asked point blank if she was a bridesmaid 4 months before the wedding in front of my hubby and her boyfriend at dinner. It was so awkward! I just said, “no sorry, i’ve already chosen my bridesmaids.” We were never that close. After that dinner, she stopped talking to me for good pretty much. She did come to the reception (skipping the ceremony), but she showed up 45 minutes late in JEANS! It’s been two years, and we still don’t talk! Unbelievable!
Post # 8
I somehow got out of it pretty graciously. I said I was only going to have family and my MOH, but I am actually having one other person too. Sooo, I hope they arent too upset about it
Post # 9
It is totally awkward for sure and rude to assume ever that you are in someone’s wedding party. You should have told them they can wear whatever they want, lol.
You are right, you definitely can not have everyone in your wedding party. After being a BM so many times, I personally think it’s an honour but also slightly overrated.
My oldest sister assumed she was MOH (I was the MOH) for another sister’s wedding. That was slightly awkward.
Post # 10
@rljohnso14: WHOA, that is intense. Its crazy how wedding bring out crazy feelings all over the place
Post # 11
Yep, I had a friend ask if she was going to be in the wedding. Not because she really really wanted to be, but because if I was going to ask her, she was concerned about having the finances to particpate .
Post # 12
Oooo cringe! Awkward! Sounds like you got out of it alright though.
Post # 13
I totally understand. I had a friend, that didn’t necessarily ask, but just started making comments about how I better not be putting her in anything hideous. I just kind of steered the conversation elsewhere, but it was a little uncomfortable because I hadn’t really decided on my bridal party at the time and i wasn’t really sure I was going to ask her to be in it, as its a DW and it’s going to be smaller.
My mother also bound me to putting 2 of my close girlfriends into my bridal party for always being there for me and helping me move in very stressful situations. They are my ladies from college, and I wouldn’t deny them being my BM for the world!
It’s a difficult position to be put it, and your not being insensitive at all. I’m sure she will just want to be there for your day and can hopefully celebrate with you, regardless of being in the bridal party.
Post # 14
Kinda wish this would happen to me, as long as it was someone I pretty much liked. I don’t have a lot of close girl friends but I don’t just want to have 2 bridesmaids either!
Post # 15
When I told one friend that I was engaged, the first thing out of her mouth was, “How many bridesmaids are you having?” I just told her I didn’t know (when I really did) and luckily for me she didn’t bring it up again even after I’d asked my girls.
Post # 16
Oh my! I’m so terrible with words especially when I’m asked about something I’m not prepared for. It sounds like you knew what to say though. That is SO awkward!!