(Closed) SERIOUSLY….Who ASKS to be a bridesmaid???????

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

that is awkward! what did you say to them?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

oh wow…. AWKWARD! and actually yea, one of my friends basically asked if she was going to be in the wedding and even though she was a good friend I never thought about her being a bridesmaid… I was so shocked and in a moment of panic said yes… and I have been regreting it ever since.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

One of my friends implied that FI and I were fighting over whether or not to make her MOH. Nope, I’m just contemplating kicking you out. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Uber Awkward. I don’t even have anything to say and that takes a lot.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

OMG YES!  My cousin asked point blank if she was a bridesmaid 4 months before the wedding in front of my hubby and her boyfriend at dinner.  It was so awkward!  I just said, “no sorry, i’ve already chosen my bridesmaids.”  We were never that close.  After that dinner, she stopped talking to me for good pretty much.  She did come to the reception (skipping the ceremony), but she showed up 45 minutes late in JEANS!  It’s been two years, and we still don’t talk!  Unbelievable!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It is totally awkward for sure and rude to assume ever that you are in someone’s wedding party. You should have told them they can wear whatever they want, lol. 

 

You are right, you definitely can not have everyone in your wedding party. After being a BM so many times, I personally think it’s an honour but also slightly overrated. 

 

My oldest sister assumed she was MOH (I was the MOH) for another sister’s wedding. That was slightly awkward. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yep, I had a friend ask if she was going to be in the wedding. Not because she really really wanted to be, but because if I was going to ask her, she was concerned about having the finances to particpate .

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oooo cringe! Awkward!  Sounds like you got out of it alright though.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I totally understand. I had a friend, that didn’t necessarily ask, but just started making comments about how I better not be putting her in anything hideous. I just kind of steered the conversation elsewhere, but it was a little uncomfortable because I hadn’t really decided on my bridal party at the time and i wasn’t really sure I was going to ask her to be in it, as its a DW and it’s going to be smaller.

My mother also bound me to putting 2 of my close girlfriends into my bridal party for always being there for me and helping me move in very stressful situations. They are my ladies from college, and I wouldn’t deny them being my BM for the world!

It’s a difficult position to be put it, and your not being insensitive at all. I’m sure she will just want to be there for your day and can hopefully celebrate with you, regardless of being in the bridal party.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Kinda wish this would happen to me, as long as it was someone I pretty much liked.  I don’t have a lot of close girl friends but I don’t just want to have 2 bridesmaids either!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

When I told one friend that I was engaged, the first thing out of her mouth was, “How many bridesmaids are you having?”  I just told her I didn’t know (when I really did) and luckily for me she didn’t bring it up again even after I’d asked my girls.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh my!  I’m so terrible with words especially when I’m asked about something I’m not prepared for.  It sounds like you knew what to say though.  That is SO awkward!!

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