- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
The bridezila in question is my funture sister inlaw and untill june last year we had form a good friendship. we are simular ages but very different people. so at first we didnt talk much but knowing her for a few years and seeing her go though alot, trying for a baby, we started to get along. when she set a date for her wedding we held off on our big day for a year so they could have there time. As soon a her date was set she feel pergant and it was great news but having lost ababy before she had stay relaxed so I started helping her more and more with wedding plans and running her around as she does not drive.
Every thing was going well, I took her to her aintnatal classes as her partner had to work, we went shopping for baby bits and wedding bits. I lent her my baby books from when I had my son and we planned together lots of little bits to keep her relaxed when she left work and get wedding bits done before the baby came 3 months before the wedding.I also agreed to pay for all the wedding favours and make and pay for the wedding invites as there wedding gift. Her budget was tigthso we came up with a plan for decorations that would cost the earth, which I then ended up paying for and hand cutting out the 300+ butterflies it took to make them. Al of this I didnt mind I offer to help and we agreeded when our wedding next year came she would return the favour.
Then I made my silly mistake I said yes to making her bridemaidresses as she could fit one her girls due to her being pregant too. I am by trade a steamstress and the dresses she want were simple but would have cost alot on a last minute order so I said yes to making them BUT I would charge her cost for the fabric and minamal per hour as it is my work. I made that very clear from the start it was argreed .
I became an aunty and things were good I took Fsil dress shopping as soon as possible but dress she wanted had sold. she was not happy and some how she started to blame me. I still dont understand why but she started looking for other dresses I drove her from shop to shop, but no luck. Then FMIL found out about a discount dress shop and see set up a date for her Mum, bridesmaids, her FSIL and me to go look at dresses. I did say if the dress she choice was simple and needed shorting I could do it for her but ther was no time for massive changes. Anyway the night before I get a text to say we changed the date and I have found my dress can you edit it?
I was a little upset but I didnt haveany right to say any thing really. I put on a happy face and went to see her and her dress, Oh my it was urm not simple and 6in to long but it was not a dress that could be just taken up. it needed to be taken to bits and take 3in off the pleated coreste bodest and 3in from the skirt because it had a ‘beautifull train ‘ too, Oh what fun. I should have said no way but Im to nice. More fallme.
I spent hours unpicking the dress and I was still making the bridesmaid dresses too because I could do that before as I said above. Then she cant find flower girl dress so FMIL asks me to make that too.
I stupidly did. Butby this point FSIl Was turning into a bridezilla and refused to be fitted intonher dress unless I came picked her up and or cameto her. I get she was not sleeping with a new baby but she was beginging to be rude . I waited twice for her and herbridemaids to come for fittings but in the end had to go to her house.
Then came thehen party I reallydont like them and didnt want to go but FMIL paid for me so I had to nice and go for her. What amess that was it all kiccked off in the other car and it turns out it was me who had started it.:I wasnt even in the car at the time with them but hay oh. I sat there took the crap for the first two hours thenleft taking FMIL home too as she was left with out a lift after other membersof the group eft early.
Anyway the wedding day comes and things are stressed but we go as its family. But it wasnt a family wedding it was a bridezilla day. The whole family sat at the front we were put tothe back of the room, I know we were moved as I printed the orginal table plan. There was spechs and flowers for all the ‘wounderfull friends and family that helped so much’ I didnt get flowers or a mention. The groom did come over and say sorry I got forgot in the spechs and Thank you for all the help. The bride did not say anything nor did she come near us all day.
So we left after the meal before the first dance cake cutting.
It all blow up the week after completely when I sent over the bridemaid dresses and I did as I said I would I only charged for the bridemaids dresses and only £50 each at that.theyshould have been more but I had lost hope of getting thing.
sure enough she refused to pay as in her eyes I ruined her day and messed up all her photos by not smiling. I was angury I rang her and was very rude on her answer machine. for which I have said sorry to all the family she made listen too it. but was angury veryangury!
now a year has passed things have setteled but now the family want things to ok again. They want me to sit down with her and get on with life. After I sent the Bill to FSIL she sent me death threat, she bad mouth me to the familya nd her bridemaids did the same to all the mums at my sons school.
I dont want to sit down with her, I dont want to see her but my partner wants to see jis siter and the family cant see why I dont want to talk to her and sort this ‘little hiccup’ out….
I dont kniw what to do?
should I forget it all andsay start again?
should I say sorry for helping her and what ever else I did or didnt do?
do I refuse to sit down with her make myself an out sider to my new family?
We get married in less then two months and family want it all to be ok by then…nbut how can itbe…I dont know what to do?
sorry this is so very long and badly spelt im stressed and upset .