Post # 1
I got engaged!
Under the condition that we could not set a date until I had a plan for graduating college and a graduation date. I have that and the second my mom found out she started pushing me for when the wedding date is. I graduate in May 2016 so we decided April 22 2017 (roughly 2.5 years away) My mother has gone into full planning mode already and is dragging me (key word here is dragging) to a wedding open house at some venue that just opened up. And sending me all sorts of pinterest pins with ideas.
So far I know I like purple red and yellow, I want to wear a tea length retro looking dress, and I don’t want masson jars anywhere and I want cupcakes instead of cake. (I hate cake but I can choke down a cupcake…maybe)
Pretty sure the reception is going to be at my parents farm so I don’t know if its even worth doing the fancy dress and tux thing.
My big question is when should I start planning planning the wedding? And where should I start?<br />And how fast are these next 2ish years going to go by? We set the date and it already feels like we are getting married tomorrow.
Post # 2
The big accomplishments I tackled first were
1) Set a date
2) Booked (and put a deposit on) a venue
3) Selected and asked wedding party members
4) Found a dress
5) Chose my colours and theme
I accomplished all of that in the first four months of our 12-month engagement. I only dealt with music, flowers, food, favours, hotel reservations, etc. after that was done. At some points, 12 months felt like eternity. At other times I felt like entire months flew by in a second. Keeping yourself busy makes time go by crazy fast. Good luck.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
I would HIGHLY suggest just taking a few months to enjoy your engagement. If your mom is into planning already, how about suggest an engagement party?
You have 2.5 years. Once you start planning you will be allllllll into it. Just relax and enjoy this moment and don’t hop into planning quite yet.
Then….sit down with your FI and ask him what he wants, style of wedding, what is important to him and then the biggie…set a budget. Budget dictates EVERYTHING! If parents are helping, have your meetings with them too. The knot .com has a great budget planner and shows all the little things even that most people forget about.
Once you have budget then you can start looking at venues. Pick a venue before anything else, this will help dictate decor, colors, even your style dress down to everything else. Once you do that you can start on any DIY projects. Do those as soon as you can! They will sneak up on you and stress you out if you wait until the end.
Post # 4
Don’t rush it, spend some time saving, making pinterest boards but I don’t think you need to hurry! My engagement was 2 years exactly, I figured out a date, asked prices, options packages at venues churches, photographers and caterers 11 months out and then booked these things within a week. Once all the big stuff was booked I’ve had time to casually look at fun DIY decor ideas on pinterest.
Since then we are slowly picking off bits as we feel like it. I’m 5 months out and just booked a DJ, don’t have a dress yet but am starting to make up ideas with my mum (she might be making it at this point), casually looking at shoes online and my FI is designing invites on MS Publisher at the moment, also this week have looked at cakes on pinterest and might email pictures to bakeries for quotes this week.
I’m sure it will all work out in the end but I figure that since all the important things are in place, not much can go wrong and if it does, it will only be minor.