Post # 1
Okay, so we’re having our wedding at a retreat in our home state, and it’s a DW for most of our guests (our parents migrated from the east, we went away to college, etc.). We have overnight lodging that we expect most OOT guests to use.
Our venue’s deadline to book lodging is a month before the event (6/11). It’s probably not the end of the world if we get a latecomer or two, but we really need to have our lodging numbers set by then.
I also anticipate needing to track down some RSVPs, just because I’ve never heard of a 100% on-time RSVP rate.
Would it be too demanding to ask guests to RSVP/book lodging by 6/1? 6 weeks in advance of the event sounds kind of insane/unconventional to me, but on the other hand, I would expect that everyone who is planning a cross-country trip would have decided long before then if they are actually attending.
When would you set the date?
Post # 3
That’s what we’re doing – an RSVP date 6 weeks before the wedding. That’s because 2 of our 4 room blocks expire 6 weeks before. And although everyone got the information about room blocks, with our save-the-dates (in the middle of October), we’re sure that some won’t think of booking a room, until they RSVP. (Unfortunately, if the blocks are filled by that time, they may be stuck- it’s a holiday weekend, in a popular resort area).
It also gives us 2 extra weeks to contact the RSVP stragglers. And although final food/drink numbers aren’t due into the venue, until the week of the wedding, the chair cover orders are due 4 weeks out, as well as the number of centerpieces, for the florist.
Post # 4
Your timing sounds right to me. Do what works best for your guests And your planning sanity.
Our latest rsvp deadline will be 2 months out because we’re having a domestic destination wedding in a popular, expensive area. many of our guests asked for an RSVP date that still gives a month for us to track down non-responders and for them to still RSVP, get rooms in the block, and buy plane tix. We also have to let venue know our guest count by a month out and I’d like to have a full extra month to make sure there are no issues tracking ppl down if needed. None of our guests have voiced any concern w invites or rsvps being too early- it’s been just the opposite. Nearly 70 guests have already rsvpd.
Setting your RSVP deadline on the early end also means you won’t be starting one of these threads stressed out that youve barely received any rsvps w/I 5 days of when you sent out your invites. (Basically, I see way too many bees who seem to wish they set an earlier RSVP deadline, but I’ve never seen the opposite- especially not for a destination wedding.)