Settle an Argument Between DH and Me…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is my husband's brother's wife my sister-in-law?
    Yes. : (88 votes)
    87 %
    No. : (13 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 4
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Yeah, I would call her my SIL!

    Post # 6
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I don’t know about the Collin’s English Dictionary, but it’s always been my understanding that your in-laws’ spouses are also your in-laws.


    Post # 7
    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I call my FI’s brothers’ wives my future SILs but I get his confusion (and he may be right for all I know LOL)

    Post # 8
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would also call her my SIL

    Post # 9
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I would. I like to call my Fi’s cousin’s wife my “cousin-in-law” 😉

    Post # 10
    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think of it as like… your sister in law in law.  Because your husband’s brother is your BIL, so she is one step farther removed- your SILIL.  In my family, I do think people are referred to the way you mentioned though. 

    Post # 11
    502 posts
    Busy bee

    She’s only your SIL in the same regards as your second-cousins-once-removed are your cousins. Not technically, but it’s easier to say.

    Post # 12
    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    She’s your SIL. 

    Post # 13
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @winstonchurchill:  +1, that’s what I would also assume.

    OP, I am not sure why your husband would get fussed about this. It sounds like you are being inclusive and want to be part of the family. That’s not a negative! Didn’t anyone else have “honourary” aunts and uncles when they grew up? My mom’s best friend was always “aunt” for us because my mom thought it was rude for 5 little brats to call her friend by her first name 😛

    Post # 16
    822 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I get where he’s coming from if he’s getting really technical, but I voted that she is your SIL.  Once you’re married, you’re all family right?  And that’s way to long of a description to explain who she is.  Although I’d say if you like her, she’s your SIL and if you don’t care for her, she can just be his ;-).

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