Post # 1
Please help – FH is arguing about the wording of our invites.
I have K______ & A______ invite you blah blah – Me being the K.
FH says his name should come first becuase that’s alphabetical. I say the Bride’s name comes first. Who’s right? Does it matter?
Post # 5
@MsGinkgo: The bride comes first- you win.
Post # 6
I’ve always seen it with the bride’s name first.
Post # 7
I’ve always seen bride first.
Post # 8
I meant to say Bride on the poll but I accidentally chose Groom. Oops.
Post # 9
Brides name goes first on the invitation, then grooms name goes first for the rest of your life is what I’ve been told. LOL
Post # 10
@lina010: Lol – exactly, I end up with HIS last name and I will forever be MR and Mrs His name his last name. This is my last shot!
Post # 11
It’s the birdes name, traditionally.
I understand that the basis for this is that the woman’s name always comes first when the couple is unmarried, then the man’s name comes first once they marry.
Post # 12
Bride’s name first. There are many reasons given to this.
Some say it goes way back to when a bride’s parents would have a dowry to give the groom which then relates to the bride’s family being the one’s paying for the wedding. In doing so, they would be considered the hosts of the wedding which then relies on protocol in being named first.
Some believe it’s the same reason as to why you hold the door for a woman, and say “Ladies first”. Some say that is the ladies first rule.
Post # 13
Etiquette Snob here… lol
The rule of thumb for matters of Etiquette is… Ladies first or those who are titled… after that Alphabetical, or by age.
So it would be Ms. Susan Jones and Mr. Bob Brown (Ladies First)
Dr. James Black and Ms. Diane Black (Titled)
Mr. Brad Green and Mr. Fred White (Alphabetical)
Mr. & Mrs. Paul Jackson, Paul Jr., Sarah, and Frank (Titled & by Age)
BUT when it comes to Wedding Invites… it is ALWAYS the Bride before the Groom.
Only names that would appear on an Invite above hers, would be those of the Hosts (ie Parents or another Relative for example)
Hope this helps,
Post # 14
@cbgg: +1 – this is proper etiquette.
Post # 15
Unless you are of a different culture, the bride’s name goes first. In a lot of asian cultures, the groom’s name goes first.