Settle our argument – Who's name first?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who's name comes first?
    Bride : (63 votes)
    93 %
    Groom : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Alphabetical : (0 votes)
    Who cares?! : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    Bride’s name goes first.

    Post # 4
    901 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Bride first

    Post # 6
    3673 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I’ve always seen it with the bride’s name first.

    Post # 7
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’ve always seen bride first. 

    Post # 8
    1817 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I meant to say Bride on the poll but I accidentally chose Groom. Oops.

    Post # 9
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Brides name goes first on the invitation, then grooms name goes first for the rest of your life is what I’ve been told. LOL


    Post # 11
    5160 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It’s the birdes name, traditionally.


    I understand that the basis for this is that the woman’s name always comes first when the couple is unmarried, then the man’s name comes first once they marry.  


    Post # 12
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Bride’s name first.  There are many reasons given to this.

    Some say it goes way back to when a bride’s parents would have a dowry to give the groom which then relates to the bride’s family being the one’s paying for the wedding.  In doing so, they would be considered the hosts of the wedding which then relies on protocol in being named first.

    Some believe it’s the same reason as to why you hold the door for a woman, and say “Ladies first”.  Some say that is the ladies first rule.


    Post # 13
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    The rule of thumb for matters of Etiquette is… Ladies first or those who are titled… after that Alphabetical, or by age.

    So it would be Ms. Susan Jones and Mr. Bob Brown (Ladies First)

    Dr. James Black and Ms. Diane Black (Titled)

    Mr. Brad Green and Mr. Fred White (Alphabetical)

    Mr. & Mrs. Paul Jackson, Paul Jr., Sarah, and Frank (Titled & by Age)

    BUT when it comes to Wedding Invites… it is ALWAYS the Bride before the Groom.

    Only names that would appear on an Invite above hers, would be those of the Hosts (ie Parents or another Relative for example)

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 14
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @cbgg:  +1 – this is proper etiquette.

    Post # 15
    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Unless you are of a different culture, the bride’s name goes first. In a lot of asian cultures, the groom’s name goes first.

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