Settle the debate for me, hive: open bar or beer and wine only?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is offering an open beer-and-wine only bar rude?
    Yes! Gimme my vodka! : (49 votes)
    18 %
    No! ... except for that wicked wine hangover. : (95 votes)
    36 %
    If it's free, who cares! : (121 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 3
    2063 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @MrsRevolutionize:  i don’t think it’s rude at all. it’s your wedding and you know your guests. i would be fine drinking wine all night but i personally know a few people who don’t drink either wine or beer. for them it might not be great. i think if you can afford a truly open bar, that’s always my preference. but if you’re on a budget, wine & beer is fine IMO

    Post # 4
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think beer and wine is fine! We had an open bar and the idiot who was our bartender was charging everyone for drinks until my FIL noticed and told him we paid for an open bar! Honestly though lots of people were drinking beer and wine. We had a lot of 20s and 30s aged people who were ordering mixed drinks but if most of your gusets don’t drink then go with the cheaper option! 

    Post # 5
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    The Host gets to decide what kind of party they wish to have… and that includes if there will be alcohol served… what kind and how much.

    So there is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with any of the following (singularily or in a combo):

    • A Dry Wedding
    • Cocktail Hour Only
    • Wine with Dinner
    • Beer & Wine Only
    • A White Bar – White Items Only (ie Gin – Rum – Vodka – White Wine)
    • or an Open Bar

    And if you live in an area where Co-Hosted Bars are the norm… (such as a Loonie or Twoonie Bar) then those are socially ok to.

    FULLY Open Bars are very expensive, and indeed prohibitive in some places… which is why there are so many acceptable alternatives.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 6
    8388 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MrsRevolutionize:  I don’t think it’s rude, but then again I don’t drink (sparkling cider for me lol).  If the majority of your guests aren’t drinkers, I doubt anyone will miss it.  That being said, we did opt for a full open bar because we knew our guests drink fairly heavily.

    Post # 7
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think it’s a generational thing!

    My parents were HORRIFIED to discover that we were serving Mimosas instead of a full open bar, but eveyone around our age (20-35) thought it was fine! Especially since it was like 1pm…

    Post # 8
    2576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @MrsRevolutionize:  I would not care either way. DH’s friends are BIG drinkers, but drink mostly beer. Honestly – you are probably better off with just beer and wine b/c the minute my DH and his friends do shots on top of beer, I know there will be a big mess to clean up. 🙁 With the wine, you could also look into the possibility of making wine spritzers with the wine – that could be a nice touch for the ladies – I know I would take one!


    Post # 9
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @MrsRevolutionize:  Beer and Wine only is absolutely acceptable. It’s free, lets not get too picky right?

    Due to insurance reasons we weren’t allowed to have hard alcohol at our wedding, that may be a restriction for you as well.

    Post # 10
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MrsRevolutionize:  When I go out to eat, I expect to drink wine. I don’t care if it’s offered to me or if I have to buy it/bring it, but I’m drinking wine, not vodka or rhum. I would certainly not pay for a full open bar to satisfy 10 out of 120 people, knowing how expensive alcohol is where I live. 

    Post # 11
    602 posts
    Busy bee

    Free booze is free booze. If it were just beer, I’d be offended, but since there’s wine also, I’d be perfectly happy!

    Post # 13
    3777 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    We did beer and wine only, and it worked out great. Also had champagne for the toast.

    Post # 14
    1397 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We had a beer and wine open bar and people did not complain, in fact they drank near $1400 in the beverages so it all worked out.

    Post # 15
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have been to a truly open full bar wedding, MAYBE once, and I can’t even think of when. EVERYONE here does beer and wine and it’s totally normal

    ETA: OH! My step brother’s 100k shindig down in Scottsdale Arizona! They’re divorced now. Undecided Oh and everyone was totally shitfaced

    Post # 16
    3248 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It is totally fine! We did it (well we had to becuase of the liquor license at the winery we married at), and it was completely fine! No complaints from anyone!

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