(Closed) SEX alternatives

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Have you thought about getting the morning after pill and taking it with you?

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@goldie.girl:  I think that probably counts as contraception

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I thought she only said “protection”, which I took as she wanting the skin to skin contact or not being able to use birth control for some reason.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@goldie.girl:  Well I’m just guessing here, but I would think that if protection/birth control is off the table, the morning after pill definitely would be since she is probably religious and that would be a huge no-no. But I could be wrong. I thought it fell into the same category as birth control pills?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@canarydiamond:  Hmm…sounds like LaTortuga has some elaborating to do.  I’m curious.  BTW, I wasn’t trying to be argumentative and hope I didn’t come across that way.  Sounds like a quandry to me…

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@canarydiamond:  yeah, would likely fall under same category from her perspective – and medically is essentially just high doses of the same meds. Prevents ovulation and potentially implantation of fertilized egg. I also wouldn’t depend on MAP has contraception if she really doesn’t want a baby – typically less effective than taking the pill correctly.

I think part of this question is why no protection, e.g. religious, wanting skin-on-skin, etc.

 

 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@LaTortuga:  Honestly, since AF was present during our wedding night, we didn’t do anything. We enjoyed the true alone time we finally had, vegged with the champagne and fruit/cheese basket that came with the room and watched some late night tv.  I was way too tired and so was DH, anyway.  We made up for it on our HM.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@goldie.girl:  this is what i was going to suggest. either that, or oral only.

@CherryWaves:  +1. so so true. every couple i know who has gotten married in the past couple years has done the exact same thing. gone to their room, gotten comfy, snuggled up, and fallen asleep. weddings are draining!

OP, you could always just stick to oral. and then go at it like bunnies on your honeymoon.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LaTortuga:  Would you share why you would not like to use protection? Is it for religious reasons, or do you just not enjoy the lack fo ski to skin contact that a condom provides?

If it is the latter, have you considered an IUD? I ask since you said you do not want children. The pill is a common option as well, however I am not good with taking pills at the same time every single day of my life. Since I can not afford an accident, I am very grateful for my IUD.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@LaTortuga:  Um… everything besides vaginal intercourse. Do you need a list? 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

iWhy I would do birth control pills.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just enjoy you x two time. Snuggle up, talk,whatever you want.  Maybe a room with a hot tub where you can clean each other and just enjoy in the sensations. Massaging each other.  Anything that makes you feel close and special together… heck it could be a Monoploy game lol.  :).

Without protection your options are limited, but only by how you two enjoy and have fun together!  If you’re really anti protection (not even condoms) then just cuddling up in bed, going though the wedding cards and gifts can be a special time.  Just snuggling up talking about how happy you are being married can be awesome.  It’s all what’s important to you two!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You have a whole slew of options. If you want someone to start (other than what others have mentioned) pick up Marty Klein’s Let Me Count The Ways. Honestly, I eloped at the court house and even with no huge wedding to deal with I was exhausted at the end of the day. We cuddled and I’m sure we talked but I don’t remember b/c I fell fast asleep. Anyway, there are plenty of options if you are hoping to avoid intercourse – just making out, using hands, oral sex, or just relaxig and cuddling after a busy day

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@goldie.girl:  Nope, you definitely didn’t come across as argumentative – no worries!

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