(Closed) sex and right and wrong

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am not judgemental, what you like and dislike is your opinion. I am open to all those things (except the threesome, I have thought about it but I am terribly jealous so that would not go well)

So I wouldn’t want someone to be rude to me and I would not be rude to them if they did not like those things. I believe there are other women on here that find it wrong as well.

That being said, why did this come up? Was someone rude to you?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with you, people nowadays see anyones opinions that are different than theirs as an open invitation to try and change their minds, and thats not right.  Just because someone has different beliefs doesn’t make them wrong and you right, that kind of attitude is self centred to the max…

 

I personally think threesomes are a horrible idea but I’m not going to crawl into your bedroom and tell you not to do it, its your life and I personally don’t care as long as it doesn’t affect mine in any way, but I also deserve to not be called judgemental just because I PERSONALLY think its a mistake.  No one in the world will have all the same opinions as anyone else so people have just got to deal with it and live and let live!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I disagree with everything you said, but I would never judge you for it.

How boring would life be if we all thought the same way and agreed with each other?  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It seems contradictory to me to complain about people not being open minded and non judgmental and then say, “I don’t think that every couple is different and should be able to do whatever they want. I think it’s wrong.”

Post # 8
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

Well, if the OP came and asked you how you felt about something, that’s okay. But if she’s already made up her mind to do something, she didn’t ask you to come into her thread and change her mind. Read the TOS, if you think threesomes are wrong, go open your thread and leave her alone. So yeah, you are being a judgy mcjudgy on her thread. Same with porn, if someone asks “What kind of porn do you think me and my DH should watch that we would both like?” She doesn’t need anyone dumping on her thread about how porn is bad and separates you from Jesus Christ etc etc. Go open your thread for that. 

Post # 9
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think this falls under the category of “welcome to teh interwebz”.  It’s easy for strangers to judge strangers when they’re hidden behind a screen.  Plus, the whole idea of this forum is to share opinions and ideas, so I think people just get used to saying what they feel, whether they were asked or not.  You’re right – it happens on here – but try not to take it too personally. 🙂

ETA: I haven’t read whatever threads this one might be referring to.

Post # 11
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364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@mirabell35:  but for some people it IS normal and no big deal. It doesn’t change anything about the way you live your life though!

Post # 12
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444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Bichon Frise:  You can think something is wrong and NOT try to stop others from doing it.  That’s how I feel.  I think a lot of things are wrong that I’ve seen other people do but I don’t let it make me lose sleep.  Ultimately it’s their life, and if I think they are fucking it up then one of two things will happen 1) they will learn the hard way what a bad idea it was or 2) everything will turn out ok for them and in that case good for them, they dodged a bullet.

 

Just because someone thinks something is wrong or horrible or a bad idea doesn’t mean they’re going to set about trying to ‘oppress’ people or make them agree with them.  Its about letting people have an opinion without trying to change their minds.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you want the freedom to express your opinion you have to understand that everyone else has the same freedom to express their opinions of your opinion. So for example you are free to say that “strip clubs are awful” and I’m free to say that your being judgemental if you post that on a thread of someone who is planning to go to a strip club.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m open to all the things you mentioned.  BUT it honestly doesnt bother me either way.

Post # 15
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4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Life is funny that way. You can’t really pass judgement unless you are able to take that same treatment back. I just let people do what they want and think what they think.

You might say it only goes the one way, but as being an atheist myself, I have been told many things that some would find hurtful, but I would shrug my shoulders. Its really on both sides here.

If I want to watch porn, thats on me. If someone wants to tell me it is wrong, “I will say well thats your opinion”. The same can be said if you find things wrong and people tell you its not.

I just choose to ignore it.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You can have whatever opinions you want and feel free to express them. However, once you start trying to apply your opinions to someone else’s life, that’s when you cross the line to judging.

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