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I think we took a break for or 3 weeks before the wedding to help build the anticipation for the wedding night. I didn't think it was a big deal to bring up, but if your FI is sensitive about this, I think the sooner you bring it up the better: give him time to think about it.
Whew. Okay. Both my FI and I had been experienced before we were together, and were intimate with each other when we got together. After I knew we were going to be together forever I realized that one thing I always regretted was having sex before we were married.
Last November we decided to stop having sex. He knew how important it was to me and so we stopped...cold turkey, so to speak (we decided to stop on Thanksgiving).
My FI has been BEYOND supportive and even stops me when I try to get frisky with him. We have 105 days till our wedding and we're both counting down like crazy. It's made us be more imaginiative with other things and I think it's made us appreciate each other more.Not to mention we both want each other like CRAZY all the time :)
By the time we have sex again it will have been 15 months. It's not easy, but I think it'll definitely be worth it! Good luck :)
We have decided to re-wait also. Our wedding is 9.5 months away, we have already waited 1 month. I think it will be worth it. We have been together for 5 years so having this "no sex break" will make the wedding night even more exciting.
I want to do a sex break too, so I was thinking the whole month of December. I kept thinking about it when planning, and never brought it up to FH cuz a million other things to do! haha... so I think i will bring it up this weekend, and see what he thinks.
we have talked about it, hes actually all for it...knowing it will make the wedding night more special. at one point he suggested we stop for the new year...which would be 6 months to the wedding!! this weekend we discussed stopping the start of his softball season...March 1st I think. But its easier for us cuz he has moved in with his parents til the wedding, i stay a few nights, so its not like we have alot of opportunity anyway!! who knows, it may become shorter. but def. bring it up soon, throw out a feeler to see how he reacts and let him think about it and how long. good luck!
I think in your case, your FI might be a little more sensitive about this so it might not be the best idea...
We're not doing this. I guess I just don't really see the point. We've been together for almost seven years and I don't think stopping for a few months will make the honeymoon any more special ;o)
I haven't considered doing this either. I didn't know people did it! I feel like I've been living in hole with all the wedding trends I didn't know were out there (I've commented on three of them this week alone, I think!)
May I ask what your reason for is? Is it just to make the honeymoon sex spicier or is there something more? Did you have one last blow-out-fiance-sex-session before you closed the curtains, so to speak?
We haven't talked about it for a while, but I think we'll wait for about 3 months before the Wedding.
Mr. Rainbow and I are definitely going on a "sex break." Initially we planned to start at the 6 month mark, but the 6 month mark is only 2 weeks away, so we're planning on starting at the 3 month mark instead. What can I say? We're not prepared to stop just yet! We'll see if we can hold out for 3 months, I dunno! If nothing else, we'll definitely not have sex for the month prior to the wedding.
Hmmmmm............ I have never thought of this. Interesting idea. I think I like it :)
Wow, I'm so impressed with everybody stopping months in advance! The FH and I stopped 3 weeks out from the wedding.
The FI and I are stopping after new years. So it will be about 3 months.....We figure it will be tough but wanted to make our wedding night a bit more special.
I was just thinking about this the other day. I know my guy will go for it when we're engaged. He was my first and has always been careful not to make me feel pressured or like I'm "damaged" or anything (I live in the Bible belt, so there's a lot of shame associated with premarital sex here, but I don't regret my decision at all) and if I asked him to stop tomorrow, I have no doubt that he would.
I'm the one that will have problems when that time comes. :) I'm planning on asking him to stop sex for the entire engagement. (We're planning on a year engagement) I want to take a break so that I still get to have a special wedding night. I'm one of those girls who's dreamt of her wedding, and wedding night, all her life and I don't want to give that up completely. I just feel like it's a way to ensure that the wedding night will be special and everything I've always wanted, even if I didn't make the choices everyone else thought I should.
I thought about doing this but FI laughed at me when I brought it up. I now feel that with all the stress of wedding planning, sex may be my only outlet! I am going to need it.
I really don't see the point of taking a break if you have already done it. Maybe you just want it to be very short on the wedding night!
My FH and I are trying this before the wedding to make us closer! We both were in intimate relationships before and sexually experienced and we've been intimiate with eachother most of our relationship so it is hard but I think it will make us appreciate each other and communicate better with one another...I'll keep you all posted on how it goes ;)
I brought this topic up last night! We think we are going to try it, but only for like a week before the wedding! haha! We don't think we could go much longer than that. ooohhh we are bad!!! 
I don't see the point if you've already been intimate. A little confused on how the wedding night is more special if you haven't had any for a few weeks, months or a year or so. I'd think all honeymoon nights are special, regardless of the last time you had sex. Now... if you've never had it with each other, then yes, it will be an extra special night. I don't know about this one. Maybe someone cna enlighten me. Hive, what's the point?
I understand were you are coming from 91011Bride. We talked about that too. I guess we are doing it (for a week!) just to build a little more anticipation. Get excited to do it again, and saying we can't, makes us want to more! We have gone a few days without before just to build anticipation.
We are doing a non-voluntary break for probably 3 months, at least. He's in the military and stationed out of state. He wont be coming back until a couple days before the wedding.
I don't really see the point either. It's not like it will be a surprise or anything. I want to have hot wedding night sex as much as the next person, but if we waited months or weeks in advance it could be very short wedding night sex.
We took a break for 13 months.
It did not make the night more special or magical. I kinda felt like "well...that was kind of pointless". All in all, I just don't think it was the big deal we hyped it up to be....we thought it'd be so awesome and whatnot. Nah, it's still sex, haha.
we didnt stop and we even had sex the morning of our wedding (but not the wedding night)
lol I can just imagine saying this to my FI....I know exacly what he would say 'aren't we already on one' lol poor boy...I should really put a bit more effort into that area of our relationship.
Nah not for me! Being with M is something that keeps me sane in the insanity that sometimes is my life. I crave the closeness with him and I know he craves the same with me. For nine months before we met we weren't initimate at all, so I guess if it took us that long then hey we're making up for lost time.
With that being said, I respect people's decisions to wait or to stop and enjoy each other again and think it's an admirable thing if that's what both parties want to do.
We're taking a break, it started last month, and we're *trying* to go for 6 months (we broke last weekend, darn it ;-)). We both think it'll make for a rather spicy wedding night and honeymoon. We've had to break before, due to health problems. When we eventually got to again, it was really hot. Not saying it wasn't before it was just fun to get to know each other again. I kind of like to know that our relationship can handle periods of abstinence well, it really makes me feel like we have more than just a physical attration. I know that we do, obviously, we wouldn't be getting married if we didnt' but I had a relationship before that was based on sex, so it's a comfort thing to me.
ejs4y8, I find your input very interesting! I was considering this for the anticipation, the buildup and also to appreciate the other aspects of the relationship while on the break, but we do enjoy that while enjoying the sex as well so...
I still haven't brought this up as I don't know how I'd go about suggesting it! and I'm not sure if it's worth it either... hehe if I keep waiting, I'll bring it up only the week before lol!
We're on a "sex-break" but not for the same reasons...more religious than just anticipatory (although that's a bonus!). Since preparing for Confirmation (in the Catholic Church) this past April, I've chosen (with non-Catholic FI's support) to be a fully practicing Catholic - which includes abstaining from sex until marriage. Since it's important to me, he's being super supportive...I kinda can't wait to "reward" him.
Echoing some others' posts, it's also made us emotionally closer...choosing to do (or not do;)) something together, finding other activities in which to intimate in a non-sexual way; it's refreshing.
This is exactly the board I was looking for! This is something I've been thinking about a while.
My fiance and I dated for 5 years before we had sex (first time for both of us), and the main reason I wanted to wait was because I wanted my wedding night to be special. There were some religious, moral reasons, and some practical ones, but that single vivid reason, the wedding night, was the one that made me hold out for the final year of those 5 years. I just kept remembering an engaged college friend saying that she regretted having sex with her fiance because their wedding night will be nothing special or new.
In the end (as corny as this sounds), I just couldn't resist my boyfriend's love any longer. I told him that as soon as he was ready to promise to propose, then I was ready to have sex. To me, the most important thing was that there was a lifelong commitment and that we would each be the only person the other ever slept with.
My one caveat and attempt to salvage the special wedding night--until we are married, we will always use a condom. I'm not sure how much of a difference it'll make--FI says it's huge--but I hope it will add an element of newness to the night.
I want to take a se break too, and I was thinking 6 months would be the right amount of time, but we're coming up on that soon, and I don't think we'll be able to handle it. Like someone earlier said, I need it for the stress relief! My job really sucks, and sometimes I feel like our relationship is the only good thing in my life. I won't be able to resist, and I know he would hate it. However, I think we'll be able to do a 2-month sex break. I have to move home for the 2 months before the wedding anyway because the wedding's in my hometown and I'm off for the summer. So maybe from end of school to wedding, no sex.
Is there any married lady who has tried the sex break? What difference did it make for your wedding night?
Just wanted to bump this topic back up. I'd really love to hear some other people's ideas and experiences on it!
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I was reading posts about sex before marriage and was glad to see that I am not the only one who would like to stop it for a while before the wedding to make the honeymoon special. I do have questions:
- how long would your break be?
- how do you bring this up to your FI?
For us, this part of a relationship is as important as the other parts, but especially for FI since a previous experience (his GF NEVER wanted that and they could go on for months without contact, this was hard on him to a point where he consulted b/c he thought there was something wrong with him.. poor thing)
Anyway, I think it could be a tough one to bring up, but it could be a good thing for us to do, so any advice would be appreciated.