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Ok, I'm not even pregnant but I just have to tell you that your post title made me laugh!! Er, good luck with figuring this out. :)
So you want to have sex to spur your baby on to comming into the world or you want some lovin in general?
The best thing would be to be up front and communicate with your husband! Work as a team to find a position that works. I'm sure its just yourself being self concious ;)
Perhaps the shower is a good spot or a candle lit room to set you at ease. You could aslo manually sitmulate each other etc etc.
Yeah we tried the shower... haha lifting of the leg becomes impossible and tiring!! I guess I want it for both. But mainly to encourage labor :)
I love the honesty in this post! We need to open up about this stuff more. :) I'm not/haven't been pregnant, but I do have a few friends who went through this. They mentioned on your side with you in front (him behind) has helped b/c belly isn't so much in the way. Also, he can "please you" with hands while....you know.
I've also heard from others that it's a good thing for baby. That there is the love/closeness that baby can feel too.
Hope this helps you. At least these are the two things I'm going to hold on to (and hope help!) when I'm in the spot. Good luck, and congrats Momma!
Nope. We tried at 28 weeks and that was an epic fail.
My doctor told me to have lots of sexy time too to encourage the little one to come earlier and I don't think it's going to happen. :\
well, I just started my 3rd trimester like yesterday, but as of now we are having sex about six days a week with no problems at all.
Being pregnant has significantly increased my sex drive, and my stomach is not big enough to get in the way. we still do it missionary style, as well as lots of other positions and i notice no difference from the size of my stomach or whatever. i am sure that we eventually won't be able to do it missionary once my stomach grows larger, but there are still lots of other positions that work.
What about "spooning" with him laying behind you? You don't feel as self conscious in this position and he does not penetrate very deep from this angle. just a suggestion!
*raises hand*
I would go crazy if I didn't have some atleast sometimes! DH definitely wants it more though. lol
Like a pp said the "spooning" position is usually a good one when it's hard to get comfy. I'm personally not a fan but if I couldn't do another position then you better believe I'd utilize it! lol
Have you tried like a "modified" missionary? Maybe propped up on pillows like if you were sitting up reading in bed... then he can get himself how he needs to.
Or even from behind if you put a pillow under your belly or kinda lean on it... just use it to find the position that helps you not feel like you're "pulling" your tummy muscles.
For the most part you just need to modify the regular positions you like. I remember with DS I always wanted to be on top so we stacked pillow up on each side that my legs could be on.... did this for 69 too! lol
Thanks guys! I am going to try to accomplish this tonight haha
@missdaredevil Wow! 6 days a week!! Well good for you. I can't believe the belly hasnt gotton in the way. But then again Im also the girl that gets the question "are you having twins"
My belly is pretty big, even though I'm only in 2nd tri. It's become a lot more difficult. My issue is that every time we start the baby starts performing lord of the dance in my tummy and I can't concentrate on my own good feelings. We're still having sex 3 or 4 times per week though.
My husband is not into pregnant sex at all, it really freaks him out knowing the baby is in between us. So I don't imagine we'll be having a lot of 3rd trimester sex.
You're not alone!!! Sex has been hard for us for awhile. Between limited positions, belly in the way (i'm also one who gets twins comments), and just us being mentally not as present considering the baby is moving between us, it just hasn't been happening more than I'd say 1-2x/month up until about 28/29 weeks. At 29 weeks, we last had sex. I'm 36 now. It sucks. I was talking to a friend today who is 3-4 weeks behind me, and she said they tried last night and couldn't, and that made me feel so much better. I was telling DH and he was like "I'm sure there are many more people have a hard time doing it at this point in a pregnancy than those who do it frequently, so we shouldn't feel bad." I'm sure my doctor will make that comment too (have sex at the end), but I just don't see it happening to be honest. It just doesn't even really feel good because positions suck and it gets frustrating and I feel gross and I don't think he likes it as much and it's not like I do either and on and on and on!
Anyway, if you find something that works, let me know! Otherwise I think we will be abstaining until we get the post-baby go-ahead. So sad :(
*raises hands*
I sometimes feel like we're the only pregnant lady who actually have a sex drive??
I just entered my 3rd tri but we've been pretty active. :D I did notice it was at it's height during second trimester. But we mainly spoon because any other is just a little uncomfortable and at this point (almost 28wks) we are afraid of inducing labor by too much shaking. hehe.
Every now and then I'm on top but my husband is afraid of crushing the baby with missionary so we no longer do that.
BTW the six weeks after labor is CRAZY. Is oral pleasure allowed?? Le sigh.
I'm jealous of you guys! I would really like to be having some 3rd trimester sex, but my doctor put me on strict orders for no intercourse due to my low-lying placenta. She doesn't want to encourage any bleeding or pre-term labor. Boo.
I'm jealous of those of you who have had a heightened sex drive during the second and third tri! I've been waiting for mine to come back (20 weeks now) but no such luck. We're on a maybe every other week pattern, sometimes a bit more, sometimes a bit less. Now that I'm starting to show just a bit and DH has felt the baby move, I think he is afraid to go for it. He said that it weirds him out a bit knowing our baby is right there, and I'm a bit creeped out by it too, but I'm sure when it comes time to wanting the baby out, we might be able to force ourselves to give it a try now and then! We shall see I guess...
@KatyElle: Ditto. I'm on the bigger side for 24 weeks and my husband is a little weirded out. He's not afraid - he just thinks it's weird.
Between yeast infections, back bain, and my husband being weird about our son in between us, our sex life has taken a hit. Currently on a 1x a month schedule (how sad) but I have a feeling it will fizzle out altogether in the 3rd tri.
After reading some of these posts, I realize how lucky I was! FI wasn't weirded out at all by the baby or my belly up until pretty much the day before we went to the hospital to have the babies! He made me feel so beautiful even though I know I looked like a manatee 99% of the time. :)
We were able to have sex all the way up to 39 weeks. In the end, it was just spooning, but I was able to enjoy it as long as I didn't to TOO much or else I would get mad heartburn! lol
With our first 2 children my sex drive was heightened, but with our third I don't believe it was any higher because I had a hernia that really put a damper on how I felt most of the time.
I have to add that I had normal pregnancies so there were no risks in having sex, otherwise I would have stopped. And the six weels after the baby it was hard to keep our hands off of each other! I think it's like reverse psychology, we want it more because we're not supposed to! :) I do advise waiting the full six weeks so your lady bits can heal :)
Less than a week into third trimester and this weekend went well for sex (since preggers we only do it on the weekend: my negotiation). I'm pretty lucky that baby never moves when I do, so that hasn't been a factor between the sheets, but I will fully admit that I'm a little more picky so things are definitely more challenging for that reason. Physically everything is working out though.
Well I had sex all through my pregnancy with no problems at all.
Just treat sex the same as before you wete pregnant. I had some large stretch marks on my belly so I kept my belly covered with my top, but had everything else 'on display'.
I don't know any men that haven't wanted to have sex with their pregnant wives. Most men love the fullness it gives to your breasts, lol.
BTW the six weeks after labor is CRAZY. Is oral pleasure allowed?? Le sigh.
6 weeks in the minimum to allow proper healing, but I know some people that have had sex at 4 because it was comfortable, but sex wasn't really comfortable for me till about 10 weeks, and I still had the occasional pain for few months after.
As for oral, well you're still bleeding for up to 6 weeks as well, so if you're into that kind of thing, maybe?? But no, I would avoid it.
I don't have/plan on having kids, but I mentioned this to my Fi and this is what he said to me..."Oh god no! I don't want my kids first memory of daddy to be being poked in the head by my penis!" ....
I laughed so hard, and clued him in to what exactly is wrong with that statement, anatomically or other wise.....
Somedays I wonder about him....
Omg, so many men think they'llpoke the kid in the head!
Silly men, seriously, do they think their rogers are a foot long? Or that they poke into your uterus during sex?? Haha, it is very funny.
OMFG that is so wrong on so many levels...
Wow, never heard that one LOL!! 
We had sex all the way through both pregnancies. No issues or pain. And yes my Sex Drive was really heightened while pregnant.
We found that even with a 9 month pregnant belly, most positions were still on the menu, even missionary. Yes I guess the "mechanics" of it had to change a bit, but it was still enjoyable.
My FI did not have any issues about my belly, as long I wasn't in pain then neither was the baby.
But my FI was also at the birth of our first child, and he had a front row seat...lol
So I guess if that doesn't turn him off sex, then neither will something as small as a baby bump.
Ha I feel weird giving an update. But SUCCESS! :)
I think we both realized afterwards how much we missed being intimate like that. Sex during pregnancy is more just getting yourself to do it (at least for me). The thought of it sounds tiring, maybe uncomfortable, and a lot of work.... but there is always a pay off. My goal is not to go into another lull. Im 36 weeks so only have a short time to make up time before we have the 6 wk healing.
Haha, yeah, this is inspiring. Congrats on the success!! Maybe we will give it another go this weekend :)
We've been in a lull for about a month now. We just can't seem to find our groove with my belly in the way and the fact that I have literally no desire for sex. I do truly miss the intimacy, but it just feels like so much work. And I swell terribly as soon as I manage to get turned on, which takes forever, and it makes it painful. My husband doesn't want to hurt me, so we end up stopping. It doesn't help that the baby always starts moving, either. This may be one of the things I'm most excited about for the future....normal sex with my husband.
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So my doctor said that since she is going out of town and I do want to go somewhat early to start having sex.... We havent even fooled around since 28 weeks. I am super self conscious and Im not even sure my husband wants to either. I do miss being close with my husband in that way and I know we will have to wait at least 6 weeks once the baby comes.... but I dont know if it will even be enjoyable. Im actually concerned its going to be somewhat unfomfortable. Is anyone doing this???