Sex life – How to get it back

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My fiance and I have been together for almost 2 years now and recently just got engaged this Christmas Eve. We used to have sex all the time before we moved in together. Now, we hardly ever have sex. I dont work and am a full time student (online classes) and he owns his own business. I think its because I am home all day and have gotten in a rut. We also spend ALOT of time together, which can be good but I think we get tired of eachother at times.

We should be doing it all over our house, everyday!! but life seems to get in the way. I feel the same way you do. I have gotten so used to not doing it, I can careless having it or not!

Post # 4
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsBark:  get a place of your own And I’m sure you’ll go back to normal.

Post # 5
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes went through something VERY similar. We had to move into my mother’s house for 9 months and during that time we had NO sex at all. We lived in the basement except everyone came down whenever they felt like it, didn’t knock, etc. and it was a full house (six total living there) so there was ALWAYS someone home no matter what. So glad that is done… but yes you will get back into the swing of things don’t worry. At first it’s kind of weird because you feel like you’re starting over, but before you know it you adjust and everything is great again 🙂 Just take it slow… ease into it. Don’t force anything, don’t stress, just have fun with it!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

It’s easy to fall out of practice, but it’s easy to get it back! Once you have your own space, even if you are reluctant at first, I bet that once you start, you’ll be wanting it more and more!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@Brittanyvictoria7:  I’m in the same spot as you are. I changed jobs, and work three 12 hour days, so I am at home much more. Our sex life has dwindled. :/

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@chic_and_fabulous:  It sucks! What does your hunny think of you guys not having sex? Does it bother him? or he is in the rut too? My fiance seems like the no sex thing doesnt bother him. Which is now making me worried a bit…

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@Brittanyvictoria7:  it doesn’t bother him at all- (which bothers me, lol). We’ve gotten into this rut before. All it takes to revive our sex life seems to be for us to take a vacation, it seems.

On that note, what are you doing for Valentine’s Day to spice things up? 🙂 Which isn’t far away!!!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@chic_and_fabulous:  We just got back from a mini vaca this past weekend but it was too our wedding venue and after 2 days of wedding crap, we were so stressed out we didnt even think of sex! LOL

For Valentines day…. ugghhh I dont know! my fiance is a simple guy and doesnt like lingerie or girly stuff.  He has been bugging me to try one thing….. LOL but I have been on the fence to try with him. ***embarrassed to say***

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MsBark:  i’m sure that when you have your own space and privacy, you won’t be able to keep your hands off of each other.  of course, this doesn’t last forever and you will settle into a routine.  i would stop thinking about it and wait until you are actually having this issue.  why add more stress to the situation?

 

@MrsWBS:  i second getting a place of your own.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

The more you do it, the more you want it.  So even if you arent particularly in the mood, have a bath, shave your legs, put on something sexy and you will soon get back in the swing.  Once it starts happenign again your sex drive will likely increase naturally.

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