Post # 1
ok ladies, my SO and I have been together for a couple years now :). And like all couples we went through our “honeymoon” phase and now we are completely over it. We don’t have sex nearly as often as we used to (from 2-4 times a day, down to maybe 1-2 a month) and I am starting to sense that SO is either really bored with the sex or just doesn’t find me attractive anymore. We haven’t had sex for almost 2 months!!!!!! idk what to do? I feel that I am losing SO’s interest sexually and don’t want them to go to someone else obviously. I know we are in a rut, but how do we get out of it, because I have needs!!!!
just needed to vent frustration, thanks ladies
Post # 3
How have your lives changed since you exited “the honeymoon phase”? Could it be that you are both busy, hectic schedules, things that are making you more tired than usual? It likely has very little to do with you personally. My best advice is to talk to your SO – communicate, and if something happens to be a concern, you can talk it through, and it will get better.
Post # 4
Have you talked to him about it? That would probably be a good first step.
Post # 5
I think the advice from both above is right. It’s important to talk about these things, figure out what is going on, and maybe both decide to work on things together, whatever that may take!
Post # 6
@LoveAndBliss:Haveyou tried to wear seductive evening wear to bed NIGHTLY. Invest in a few things to keep him interested and happy. Men are visually stimulated, do the things you did to peek his interest.
Post # 7
I agree, have you talked about it with him? Maybe it’s not bothering him as much as you’re afraid it is. Maybe he’s also too tired or stressed or whatever.
Post # 8
Yeah, we’ve been together almost 8 yrs and believe me, its an ongoing battle. lol We do it 1-2 times a month as well. But, to keep it interesting … we try different things (constantly!)
One thing you may want to do is surprise him with something that YOU’VE never done before (Ex: Wake him up in a “happy” way, or a toy you’ve never used before, or seducing him when he comes home from work … I’m not sure what you HAVEN’T done, so I’m throwing out ideas here). Just the fact that you’re doing something he’s never seen you do will wow him enough.
Post # 9
sometimes, couples go through a “slump” try talking to him, and explain that you’d like to have sex more. Maybe you should try a new position or a different place, something to spice it up. but, defiently talk to him. is he stressed out? has his libido gone down? is he worried about something else? it can be any number of things, just talk to him about it.
Post # 10
We sometimes have to make a conscious effort to have sex, cuz our lives are really busy. We make a point of it on the weekends, at least, sometimes a surprise on the weekdays. but honestly, life is just crazy and sometimes its the very last thing on our minds. But we do try to keep the spark alive, and so far so good, and we’ve been together for 6.5 years
Post # 11
@njm1313:I agree with nim1313 try “toys: I know Too Much Information but I recently went to a passion party got a few things just to try them out and BOY We both couldnt be happier. Its like we want to more than ever now. We hit a rough patch just like you and now its better.