Sex like in the movies… Advice?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
9930 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@graygodess20:  we used to be like that, about 8 years ago, and slowly we’ve ‘gotten lazy’ both of us.

Every now and then we can get super into it but generally we’re lazy – I’m with you, I’d love to have that back sometimes, but i can say that with FH I always get a ‘good fuck’ 😉

But I do know what you mean


Post # 4
2169 posts
Buzzing bee

@graygodess20: Since the guy cannot read your mind, I think you have 2 options:

    1. Talk to him about it and express your desires. 
    2. Alternatively, you can attempt to initiate by pushing him up against the wall and ripping his clothes off at the right moment. Hopefully he goes along with it and enjoys it. Afterward, talk about how much you enjoyed it/how sexy it was and make plans to repeat it in the future.

    Post # 5
    1690 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We still have bouts of crazy passionate, up against the wall (or dining room table) kind of sex. It happens out of the blue mostly. Sometimes of we haven’t seen each other in a while (he’s away on business, or I’m out of town on a girls weekend). Usually when we go on vacation it happens. It also happens if one of us changes something – I get a new haircut, sexy new outfit, etc) I don’t think you can really plan that kind of passion, and it’s hard to fake. It has to be genuine on both sides.

    Post # 7
    3195 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    You really don’t want to have sex like they do in the movies. The actors are only pretending. Wink

    My husband and I have a very passionate and romantic sex life. This comes from being extremely attracted to each other and making sex a priority. We also know that we are not mind readers, so we are open about what we want in bed.

    Sex is communication. Tell your husband what you want. Maybe you guys need a little getaway; we always have especially lusty sex when we go away. 

    Post # 8
    2069 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013


    so they are pretending in the movies but what about make up sex?? or for us some of the best crazy rip your clothes off lovin is when hes gone for a while (a trip) and we’ve barly talked the whole time he was gone.  depending on how long he was gone,  it can go for staying in for days. we’ve been together for 8 years.

    Post # 9
    3195 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Have you ever told your husband what you want?

    Post # 11
    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I have the same thoughts when people in a movie are just hot hot hot the entire time. I told FH that sometimes it would be nice to be like that, but we always end up laughing at something or one of us saying “move a little to the left…” or something like that. He said that’s what makes us us; we’re comfortable enough to be able to laugh and joke and talk to each other during sex. We still feel sexy enough without having to act like porn stars.

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