Sex offender 2 houses down!!

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Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

First. Breathe! Now you know the information and you can protect your child accordingly. Honestly though, you don’t know all the details. He could have been 18 and slept with his 16 year old girlfriend. Sadly, sex offenders are everywhere. You could move to where none are registered, but that’s pretty hard to do. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ames12708:  Reallistically though, what can he do? You don’t need to befriend him. And when our kids were young, didn’t wander next door (or anywhere else) without our permission.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sexual abuse laws are horrendously flawed. He could have been punished for something he did with a 16 year old when he was 18.

 

I’m not going to make excuses for the guy. He could be a monster like you claim. It’s possible, however, that it was bitter parents wanting to take it out on their daughter’s boyfriend.

You just don’t know.

But, like another poster said, what can he realistically do? As long as you don’t bring him into your life, there’s little risk. It will be many, many, many years before your child even has the potential to be walking outside by themselves — Will he still be there? You don’t know.

You’re making a mountain out of a molehill right now. This person is no threat to you or your unborn child.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

@lovelyMsValentine:  +1.  I used to have a sex offender living down the block from me, and he was registered because he had consensual sex with another man in the 70s.  Its quite possible that this guy is a similar deal.  

Either way, you can take precautions to protect you child.  There are a lot of sex offenders out there who were never caught.  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@lovelyMsValentine:  @paula1248:  I agree with both of these comments. 

There are way more un-registered offenders out there than registered, so I’d be just thankful to  know so that you can keep an eye out.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Omg! We just moved a month ago, and I didn’t even think to check that. I’m going to look it up now!

(Even though I don’t want kids, it’s still way too creepy.)

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@ames12708:  OMG that is terrible! I’d say build a fence around your garden so that your child can’t wander out of it as a toddler and make sure to tell them never to talk to him. I’m guessing that if he wants to stay out of jail then he will not go anywere near your children. Keep your distance from him. I’m so sorry that this is happening to you, especially since you’re pregnant :(. 

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@paula1248:  +1.

Your child isn’t going to be out riding his or her bike anytime soon, and the guy could be long gone by then. Don’t panic. Even so, the likelihood of him harming your child is slim (most abuse isn’t done by a complete stranger). Nonetheless, if he is there, just make sure your child knows to not wander to a neighbor.

But I understand why you’re freaked out. It would certainly make me uncomfortable!

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Just use the information to avoid this person, and then common sense to keep all strangers away from your child. There could be more harm from an unregistered person, or a person travelling through the area.

 

In the UK you can only ask the police about a person you have concerns about if there is a specific reason (eg they babysit your kid), and even then they can ask the police who reported them. Makes me sick. Wish we had a public registry like you have!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

In Holland there is no way you could find out..so I don’t know who lives on our block, I need to protect my daughter from everybody, just in case!

Honestly, I would totally ask him why he was convicted, why not, he must know the information is easlily found on the internet, why not just ask him? Maybe there is a explanation for it, maybe you can google him (try to figure out the name)…I would do whatever I could to find out what he did exactly!  

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