Post # 1
This sounds absurd and rediculous I know. Just was curious….
My fiance and I have been together 5 years…so obviously sex isn’t a big deal. It’s amazing….(sorry if TMI) but not something that we have never done before. We are going to have a CRAZY, busy wedding day/evening and our flight leaves the next morning after our wedding at 5:00am. Meaning we will have to get up at 3:00am. (had to take earliest flight out to avoid 12 hr layover)
So if we are not up all night having crazy sex, is there something wrong with that? Does everyone stay up all night and having crazy sex in wedding night? I know it’s obviously only between us, but just curious as to what the “norm” is (especially since I don’t know anyone on here!!)
Post # 3
We’d already done the deed too, had been up really early the morning of the wedding and were super busy all day, and had a brunch with family and friends to attend the next moning. But I can’t imagine not having sex on my wedding night! DH and I did twice (sorry if TMI) but we certainly weren’t up all night either. Who stays up all night? People need sleep!
EDIT – also wanted to add after reading the other posts …. every one of DH’s and my friends who were recently married also had sex on their wedding nights (yeah, we share all sorts of fun info with each other – lol). Obviously there’s nothing wrong if you don’t, but I would say that it is more common to have sex than not have sex.
Post # 4
Most of my friends who are married have all admitted that they were way too tired to even think about getting it on on their wedding night. Even my mom (TMI Mom!!) said there was no sexy fun time on my parents wedding night either. SHe said they were so tired the only thing they wanted was sleep.
Post # 5
We did not, but it ended up being my time of the month (TMI sorry). It’s not the end of the world and we made up for it on our honeymoon 😉
Post # 6
Almost all my married friends were too tired/drunk on their actual wedding night to have sex.
Post # 7
We had some fun the night of our wedding!
Post # 8
We definitely did not…we were exhausted, H had drunk more than a little, and all I wanted to do was sleeep. We made up for it on the honeymoon though.
Post # 9
There was a thread about this couple months ago and I remember at least half the girls said they were too exhausted to do it. So if it doesn’t happen, there’s nothing weird about it 🙂 For us it somehow happened. My feet were hurting were like crazy, my body was aching, but guess we were both in the mood for love after an amazingly romantic day.
Post # 10
We definitely had amazing sex that night. I surprised him with photos from a boudoir photo shoot I did so there was no turning back after he saw those . But we did not stay up all night. We looked at the pics, had sex, then went to sleep. One of my sisters did not and she regrets it. It is your wedding night! Doesn’t have to be multiple times or the best sex ever but come on!
Note: our honeymoon is in December so maybe if it was right after the wedding I would have different views on this. We went back to everyday life shortly after the wedding.
Post # 11
Why is it always the women who “just want to sleep”? I’m sure the men want to sleep too, but somehow they want to have sex more. I’m sure I’ll want to sleep, but I’ll want to have sex more, especially since it’ll be my first time. Hmm, I guess people just aren’t that excited if they’ve already had sex before that night.
Post # 12
@SugarandSalt: I’m in the same boat, so if one of us were sleepy, I’d be like, “Here’s some coffee, now whip it out.”
Post # 13
By the time our wedding rolls around we will have been together for 6 1/2 years and lived together almost that entire time. Sex isn’t exactly new to us. I would actually be more surprised if we have sex on our wedding night than if we didn’t. I anticipate being pooped after our after party so I’m sure we’re just going to want to crash.
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Post # 15
My husband and I were together for over 6 years before we got married. Sex wasnt a big deal to us either and we agreed before the busy day that if we were too tiered then that was ok with us. I must say that it was the BEST sex we’ve ever had; even though we were soooo tiered the next day it was Worth IT! you could always sleep another time, your wedding night only happens once. good luck 🙂 and have fun with it
Post # 16
We went home, I showered and went to sleep. My back was murdering me from carrying around my bustle all night. It’s just one night, I didn’t see what’s so amazing about one night.