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are you and your FI waiting to have sex until your wedding night or not?
just curious! ;D haha
we are!
We didn't, and we both feel like it was a really good choice. The physical part of our relationship is just as important to us as the emotional. That being said, I totally respect everyone else's beliefs and think that people who wait until marriage are awesome!
We're not. Although I might suggest a hiatus prior to the wedding for a few mo just to make the honeymoon EXTRA special :) (although if we're going to a place with a lot to do... maybe not! haha)
No way! We've been together and having sex for almost 4 years now. We live in sin, too ;)
I've always been curious, and please tell me if this is out of line, do couples who wait to have sex do other things? Like, do you have oral sex or touch each other's privates in any way? Hope that's not offensive to anyone, I'm just genuinely curious.
no, we didnt wait until our wedding but in hindsight i wish i had waited until i met my now hubby before i had sex in general. he is only the 2nd man ive had sex with and thinking back it would have been nice to be just him (mainly because i enjoy it him where i didnt with my 1st boyfriend).
Negative. We took a 13 month hiatus though (he was deployed, haha!). Physical relationship is important to us.
For us, we try to abstain from everything other than kissing...we have had some oopses, but nothing major. Our physical relationship is super important to us too, we are super touchy feely, but it's just our personal decision to hold off on sexual stuff until we're married.
I totally respect everyones decision whether to have sex or not! It's personal choice!
to each her own! :D
We have been having sex since our second "date" (we are dirty kids, I know, but it is one of the reasons we love each other) ... I asked FH if he would want to abstain for a bit before the wedding, and he said H*!! no, so we are going to keep on like we always have. Honestly, I don't think we would gain anything from abstaining - because "practise makes perfect" LOL!
Let me rephrase...it was important for us to be intimately involved before we got married =]
I had to know if he was a crazy nympho in bed and would try to steal my undies and stuff! =P
We didnt wait and Im glad. The physical compatibility is a issue in all marriages and I wouldnt marry someone that I didnt know if I was compatable with. We took a 2 week hiatus before the wedding (not actually planned- busy/family/illness=no getting lucky!) and it did make us anxious for the wedding night/honeymoon. (In a good way)
We have decided to wait!
Our decision was for both religious and personal reasons. We've been together for nearly four years now, and we can't wait for our wedding night!
That's not to say that we don't make out. We do. But we sat down and talked out our boundaries, and we've stuck to them. We know enough to know that we're compatible, but not so much that there's no more surprises.
What makes it even more special is that he is the only guy I've ever kissed. :)
We've been together for 4 years and are waiting for sex. (It'll be almost 6 years when we get married). I am so excited I can barely stand it :).
That being said, I'm specifically waiting. The future Mr had slept with one person before, but that's it.
@EAQ - we allow touching, but that's as far as we go. I am, though, excited about oral sex as well, but we're also waiting for that.
this is going to sound awful. horrible. terrible.
we met on new years eve. kissed at midnight. had sex at about noon that day. moved in together a week later.
i'm not good at following rules. :p
originally i was going to make us take a sex-hiatus a month or three before the wedding, but now i've changed my tune. i'll be stressed enough without adding that stress.
hmmm 50 we chatted on the net for 9 months met once briefly jan of last year, met again on june 1 to errr well have a one night stand... and then it just kept going and going and well it's still going. i can't imagine not making love to him. he completely intoxicates me. for example the way he smells is just completely erotic to me, talk about pheromones.. omg i LOVE the way he smells i have never even really noticed anyone else before and when i roll over into his spot after he leaves for work oh my god it's almost dizzying.. sorry but um if we ever get married we'll be making love all the way through... because well, he's my best friend and i cannot imagine not being in his arms... unless our convo doesn't go well today.
Nope, we've been together 3.5+ years and have been having sex for almost the entire time... we have no plans to "abstain" for any amount of time before the wedding. Honestly, I don't see the point in doing that (for couples who have already had sex I mean).
We actually had sex at the beginning of our relationship and then both agreed to stop for religious reasons. We've been together 4 years and it's been a bit over 3 years since the last time we had sex. We stopped doing everything but kissing because otherwise things would go too far, way too fast.
We won't be getting married for another 2 years so we've still got awhile to wait. :(
I did NOT wait with/till my hubby but we do plan to have a 4 week break before the big day ;)
i've been kind of a prude most of my life, so I was shocked and freaked out when i impulsively decided to sleep with my now SO (of nearly 4 years) on the second date. totally out of character for me to do! that said, i do hope that we can hold out for awhile before our wedding (whenever that happens) because i do really want there to be a feeling of special-ness and excitement.
i truly respect people who do plan to wait. there is something really meaningful in that, and for all the ladies who have been abstaining, your wedding night will be an incredibly special and exiciting moment for you!
We didn't wait! Haha. I've gotta say, I'm glad! I wasn't a virgin and he was...let's just say it's great now! haha.
@crebre- lol! it's not a one-night stand if you keep doing it! :p
@His Barista- My fiance had only had sex once [one time] before we did. I'd been with 18 other people. (Bad me). He has fantastic equipment, so I just led the way for a bit. I got to be a teacher! lol
hmm.. we waited until a few hours after we met :)
We will not be doing any sexual break before the wedding either. I would go crazy! He can handle going longer without it than I can, but I still think anything over a week and he wouldn't be able to hold out. Sometimes we go over a month at a time right now, but that's just because of him traveling for work... if he was home we would never go a month without any action!
@fifty... omg (not judging, just kinda giggling at the thought)... outside of work, i dont think i even know 18 guys - you cheeky girl :)
Haha, wow fifty! lol. I'd only been with 2 before my FI and both were serious relationships. = ) He has some great equipment, too. It just means as a teacher we can have it the way we like it! lol.
edit-um, I hope that doesn't sound mean...i'm more amazed at the idea of 18 guys. I just can't imagine being that bold! = )
I just had a lot of boyfriends! (Not at once! lol)
And a few true one night stands. Went through a "friendly" phase.
cheeky girl! i never had the confidence to do that, but then again it took me a long time to deal with body & other issues but eventually when i was ready to be with a guy i had a "lets just this over with" attitude about it and made a bad choice that kinida put me off it for a long time. oh well - live and learn :)
@HB- Pfft, it doesn't sound mean. It's pretty hard to offend me. :p
Yeah, that was during my OMG I AM SO SKINNY AND PRETTY AND DON'T EAT HEE HEE phase. 17-20.
Yeah, I'm only 20 and I still can't imagine doing something like a one night stand (especially not since I've been with FI almost 2 years). lol. Probably since I'm from a small town where everyone was breathing down my neck about not being a screw up. = )
@50, well behaved women rarely make history =]
I'm curious how you found that many tall guys! buah ha. Or did you like the shorties too? LOL....maybe at my nerdy engineering school the men tended to be super short....lack of sunlight stunted them b/c they played too much World of Warcraft. I can honestly say I don't think i know 18 guys taller than me =]. Which is like, my #1 criteria....and DH is 1/2" shorter. Nice, eh? =]
We won't intentonally abstain but I have a feeling the week before the wedding is going to be pretty dry sine we'll be fling in and staying with relatives and doing last minute wedding things and then sleeping apart the night before the wedding. Who knows, maybe we'll decided we need that time and get a hotel.
We are waiting till the wedding night. .. 7 months!!!
Its getting harder but we believe it is worth it for sure!
Not that we never fail.. we do. it can get intense but we repent & we are forgiven :D
God created sex.. and said it was goooood!!!
Only one guidline.. to be throughly enjoyed ;) within marriage.
Really for our own sake.
LOL that ship sailed long ago. I could see waiting if I was getting married at 22, but I'm turning 30!
@50: I went through that stage too. Most specifically through sophomore year of college when me and my girlfriends were all single and we lived in a townhouse. Memories...
We're not abstaining at all. We slept together a couple weeks after we met and have been doing it for over six years. No reason to stop now ;o)
@50: I'm in the club too! I think mine is somewhere around 20..... how bad is it that I don't even know the actual number?????? LOL
We are waiting until we are married for religious reasons and I am SO glad! I had a prior relationship where I did NOT wait and it really, really complicated things, including our breakup. FI and I are both really sexual so it is not always easy (read: ever) but it means a lot to us that our first time will be on our wedding night!
@ejs- Oh, I've had from 5'6" to 6'11." Only 3 were shorter than me though, iirc.
I'm glad some other ladies went through that phase. :p
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