(Closed) sex question – please help! Ouch.

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have the same issue! Same feeling, same area. I have no idea what causes it, I just assumed because I was a virgin before SO and because I’m small, that that was why it hurt?


I’m interested in hearing responses.

Post # 4
6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@ashamedone:  I think maybe you are just out of practice. You might be sensitive down there because your skin needs to toughen up a little, kinda like forming calluses. If the problem persists, you should definitely get checked out, though.

I am not a doctor and have no real medical advice to give. 

Post # 6
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think that can happen if you don’t have sex very often. I had the same thing when my hubby and I were apart for two months.

Maybe use a little extra lube, just to be safe?

I’m curious to hear other responses though.

Post # 7
8216 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you tried different positions to see if that helps any? Sometimes a different angle can help.

Post # 8
423 posts
Helper bee

@ashamedone:  It hurts me when I do it after a long time but usually the pain goes away once I start doing it regularly. I would advice fingering before penetration – you know, first one finger and then two? It might help.

Post # 10
598 posts
Busy bee

I think it may be because you still aren’t naturally wet enough which is why the “tearing” sensation is happening down toward the base of the opening. I don’t know if the lube works for you as well as your own bodys wetness, but it shouldn’t be feeling that way if there is proper lubrication. Also like someone else said: you don’t do it often so that may be a huge factor.

Post # 11
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ashamedone:  It does not hurt every time. Unfortunately I have a medical reason as to why we can’t have sex at the moment so I can’t say. We were planning on getting lube and using that any time it started to hurt.

It usually hurts if it’s been a while or I’m not super lubricated, however sometimes I am and it hurts.

Post # 12
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know you said that lube isn’t the issue… but more never hurts!

Post # 13
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

This happens to me too after having sex after a break. Sometimes it can last up to a few weeks.  As long as you don’t have anything like a yeast infections, I would say this seems prety normal. I have to use extra lube. I know you said you are lubricated, but more will not hurt.  Also, try to take a bath/let water run over that area in the shower. It will help with the pain and healing. Also use really gentle soaps, or just water, until you feel back to normal!

Hopefully it will toughen up a little with time!

Post # 14
3059 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Tiny cuts like that often indicate a yeast infection. Do you have any other symptoms? 

I will tell you the best thing I’ve done for my vag health is stop using soap. I only use soap on the parts that touch my underwear. A strong blast from the removable shower head keeps it fresh & unirritated. 

Post # 16
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do you perhaps have slightly longer-than-average labia? If you do, they can kind of get folded in when penetration happens, and it can hurt quite a bit.

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