Sex question!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you get it on with your SO?
    pretty much every day : (8 votes)
    4 %
    4-5 times a week : (21 votes)
    11 %
    2-3 times a week : (64 votes)
    35 %
    once a week : (45 votes)
    24 %
    A few times a month : (29 votes)
    16 %
    once a month : (11 votes)
    6 %
    a few times a year : (3 votes)
    2 %
    other! : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 4
    1173 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @katydaisy:  DH is military so it varies. He might not be home for weeks at a time so we make sure we are busy little rabbits when he is home.

    Depending on our schedules we fit in three times during the week and at least 5 times from Friday evening to Sunday evening. He its what we do. We are still fiends for each other.

    Matter of fact DH has been out of town this week and we have some catching up to do when he gets home tonight.

    Post # 5
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    2-3 times a week, like clockwork!

    Post # 6
    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @BrandNewBride:  +1

    I think 2-3 times a week works for me. Although I know FI would probably do it 5 times a day if he could! No sleep, no work, just sex! lol

    Post # 7
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Two times in one week is a ton for us, our average is more like once every two weeks, and there are definitely times where it’s been more like once a month/up to 6 weeks. Including BJs it’s a little more frequent, however I’m assuming for the sake of simplicity people are just going with penetrative sex/intercourse ; )

    We are both 28, he works part time and goes to school full time (except in the summer) and I work full time and go to school part time. We are both introverts and need solo “down time” – our “together time” mostly consists of cooking together and watching TV. We could both do with more sex but just don’t have a ton of energy for it – and added to that our sex drives are just kinda, out of sync, I guess? When we do want it, the other person often doesn’t. We have been together 6 years, are solid in our relationship and are both cool with the other person masturbating to meet their needs. So it works for us! Maybe TMI but I struggled with feeling weird about this for a while and just wanted other low-frequency ladies know they are not alone!

    Post # 8
    2766 posts
    Sugar bee

    If we’re including oral sex, 4-5 times a week. I’d love it to be every day, and some weeks it is, but time and schedules don’t always permit. We both have RIDICULOUSLY high libidos, so occasionally it’s even 3-4 times a day haha.

    Post # 9
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    A few times a month. It’s picked up a bit lately. I think we have had intimate contact 5 times in the last two weeks. That’s not our norm, though.

    Post # 10
    1996 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It varies with fi work schedule.  We could have a week that’s every night & the following week 3-4 times. Pretty much as much as we can depending on what we have going on. 

    Post # 11
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Statistically… the Kinsey Institute says the average for most folks is once a week (no matter their age)… but there are plenty of couples who do it more (and many who do it less)

    People who are younger tend to have sex more often than those that are older.

    And people in “newer” relationships tend to have sex more often than those in longer more established relationships.

    (aka The Honeymoon Phase)

    Kinsey Institute (Sexual Frequency) =

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 12
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Sometimes once a day, other times every other week. It was even less frequent when I was on the Pill, because I just had no sex drive.

    My husband would do it hourly, if I agreed.

    Post # 13
    2578 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Once a week these days, as DH is working away from home 6 days a week. I’d definitely like to be intimate more often (I’d do it hourly if he could keep up with me!), but I’ll take what I can get, lol.


    Post # 15
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @emthebrave:  You are definitely not alone 😉 I get the low energy and the out of sync part lol I find that with work full time and other activities, I’m totally exhausted at night! Like you said, we would like to have it more often, but we also like out down time during the evening. And when we have it (usually on weekends, when we are well rested), it is REALLY good 😉 We also do a LOT of things together (biking, talking, watching movies, cooking, chores, etc), and we also kiss and touch each other a lot during all those things haha!

    So I don’t worry too much for now 🙂 And I like to read that you guys have been together for six years and still strong. I think sex is really over hyped theses days (not the actual sex, but the frequency of it). I mean, if we do it every 10 days and it blows our mind because it is so good, I won’t complain lol

    Post # 16
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    @soupir:  Thanks for your supportive words, that actually really means a lot to me. We have had our ups and downs and I never thought of us as being strong, but I guess we are in a lot of ways 🙂 We definitely do a lot of activities together and are pretty affectionate in general too. 

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