(Closed) Sexism – how do you react?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I went out and got educated for a job where there is practically no direct sexism (I’m an attorney.)  Depending on the obnoxiousness of the sexist I comment I will just let it go.  Otherwise, I will make a smart remark back about something equally sexist towards males.  Typically that gets the point across.  If someone is consistently sexist (and they’re not close family that I have to put up with), I stop hanging out with them.  I don’t people like that in my life.  If they were to ask why I stopped hanging out I would tell them directly that it was because they were being a sexist a-hole.

Post # 4
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

it’s still rampant, and I hate it. I make it clear to that person that I don’t appreciate such comments. most recently, it was the “now that you’re married, are you going to stop working?”

Post # 5
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@canyouhearmenow13:  I have to play with the boys everyday at work and they can be weirdos. I once had a male coworker tell me I got promoted because I was pretty. WTF!? I told him I think I got promoted because my numbers were twice as good as yours. I don’t let people talk down to me because I’m a woman. I can be as successful as any man and I do it in 4 inch heels. Kiss

Post # 8
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@canyouhearmenow13:  I thankfully haven’t met many of those. I’m the only female in my very male dominated workplace and nobody has ever said something remotely insulting to me.

Post # 9
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

this is about racism, but  I think it can apply here too:

Post # 10
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My FH and I had a job once, and the boss was never around. It was us and the other workers (and it was more of a casual job, we’d only go in when needed and we weren’t really employed, if that makes sense, the boss just needed 2 people one day and we were there). Well, FH says one day that I couldn’t do the job, it’s too physically demanding. I told him he was wrong, I could and would do just as well as the men. I was right, I kept up with FH and walked circles around a lot of other guys. I didn’t even WANT the job, I really just wanted to prove I was as capable as him. After that he apologized and hasn’t tried to tell me since that I can’t do something.

The boss though, is an ass. He called FH one night and said he needed one person. FH said ‘ok, i’ll work’, but he got busy and I went in for him. Everything went as it normally did and we finished the job at a good time . The next week the same thing happened but this time FH says ‘i’ll be busy at my other job, but lovemelovemyhorses will work’ and the boss said something very sexist like ‘nah, she’s a girl she’d slow everyone down’. Well, the boss never knew I worked in his place the week before and had no problems with the job i’d done, so obviously he doesn’t know squat. We never worked for him again. I’ve had a lot of comments about what I ‘can’t’ do, because a) i’m a girl and b) i’m very thin so am regarded as being weak, even though that’s not true. My mum raised me to believe I can do anything a man can do. I’m very much a ‘tell me I can’t and i’ll show you I can’ type person.

My work place is very good about sexist comments, sometimes they’ll joke around with me and say things about my gender, but they ARE joking so that’s different. Nobody here thinks i’m less capable because i’m a woman.

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