Sexting – is it ever ok outside of a relationship?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it ever ok to 'sext' when your in a relationship?
    No! I see it as cheating : (143 votes)
    93 %
    Depends on the circumstances and how far it goes : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Yes, if it doesn't involve photo's/video's : (3 votes)
    2 %
    It's harmless fun! : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @UKbee:  I thought you meant doing this with your partner! In my opinion anything sexual outside of a relationship, whether physical or not, is cheating. 

    Post # 4
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - alder manor

    @UKbee:  If I or my partner feel the need to sext with someone besides eachother, then why be with eachother. I wouldn’t do it, or accept it being done behind my back.

    Post # 5
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I work on the basis that any sexual behaviour or conversations that can’t be conducted in the company of your partner are questionable. So I wouldn’t be tolerant of sexting any more than I would my DH having this sort of discussion with another woman in person! It’s all part of a slippery slope that leads straight to infidelity.

    Post # 6
    6446 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you are in a relationship and you are sexting someone else, I consider this cheating. My friend was actually doing this for quite awhile and her SO broke up with her. I would do the same thing.

    ETA: I live by the rule that if you would hide the message/conversation from your SO, than you’ve gone too far.

    Post # 7
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I think that anything I feel the need to hide from my SO is wrong and something I shouldn’t do,so of course that include sexting!IT’s plain cheating.

    Post # 9
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    If you have to hide it because it would hurt your partner, it’s not good

    Post # 10
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Yeah, that’s cheating. Basically, anything you do that you have to lie about or conceal from your partner is cheating. 

    Post # 11
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @UKbee: It’s not cheating if both partners agree that it is not cheating. But having that type of open-ish relationship requires 100% complete and total trust and honesty between partners. 

    If you are hiding it from you partner, it’s probably cheating.

    Post # 12
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    This is cheating to is. Watch all the porn you want but when you introduce another person in “real time” that you’re interacting with, that’s where our line is.

    Post # 13
    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Cheating, straight up.

    Post # 15
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014



    I can careless about porn but that sexting b/s doesn’t fly with me. 

    Post # 16
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @UKbee:  I would consider it cheating. It’s not like watching a porn video online. It’s having a real interaction (although not physical) with another person, in a sexual context. Not okay.

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