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    MrsJKH2be    October 2010  

    So FI and I are actually married - we got married 1 year ago this upcoming weekend.  We are sill having a wedding in October.....

    We have agreed not to give each other wedding gifts since we are footing the entire bill for the wedding and spending a good chunck of money on our honeymoon.

    That said, I still want to give him a little something, private, for our wedding night.  I was thinking that since he is always bugging me about getting and using sex toys, I would get him a little gift bag of "intimate items" to use.  IS this inappropriate ?  He wouldn't get them until later on that night so it wouldn't be like he is opening them up while him and his GM are getting ready.

     
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    dance    July 23, 2011   Alberta, Canada

    I don't think that is inappropriate at all - and since he has been asking about using some intimate items such as toys before, I think he will be excited about it!  It will be a nice way to enhance your wedding night...and many nights afterwards!

     
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    mrsv2be    September 22, 2010  

    That sounds fun :) Maybe you could lock him up with some handcuffs, since you are the ball and chain and all!

    Seriously, FI and I love sex toys and role play! Have you ever talked to him about this? I wouldn't introduce sex toys for the first time on the wedding night, but if he is open to the idea or you two have used them before, why not?

    I love Doc Johnson's Lucid Dreams line. They are fun and not so phallic looking!

     
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    julies1949      

    A private gift from you to him? absolutely ok. But don't be surprised if you are both way too tired for any sexual activity on your wedding night, much less introducing new toys.

     
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    MrsJKH2be    October 2010  

    Well here's the thing.....

    I was super super "adventurous" in the past w/ previous boyfriends and "friends w/ benefits" BEFORE meeting him.  But, for some reason, I am not like that with him - but I'm not a prude either!  I'm just kind of embarrassed w/ him because he is my husband and I don't want to feel silly! 

    I was thinking of getting some "fun" toys - like the dice and other things....

     
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    bryanneb61    May 5, 2012   Columbus, Ohio

    I think its a great idea.  You could always look for one of those kama sutra sets that includes oils and lotions for massages and maybe a long feather plume or somethine like that.  There are lots of good "tamer" choices out there that might help you not feel embarrassed.

     
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    AllynK43    October 9, 2010   Knoxville, Tennessee

    @MrsJKH2be: I totally feel that way as well!  I am way less adventurous with my husband than some of the other guys I've been with.  I guess because I've known in the past that it was temporary.

    Also, my hubby and I have been officially married for a while now (though no one knows, it's sort of great!) and we are having an october wedding as well.  Isn't it liberating to know the most important part of the day is already taken care of? It's so liberating.

     
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    MrsJKH2be    October 2010  

    @AllynK43 -- its the best!!  Even though a handful of people know, its like our little secret :o)  Plus I'm not going to be a nervous wreck the day of the wedding and I can enjoy it w/ our friends and family!  Congrats to you as well! :o)

     
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    SuperShopper    June 25, 2011   Midwest

    Totally acceptable!  :) Go for it, I'm sure he'll love the surprise!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Go for it!  But I agree with @julies1949 that you might be too tired to try them out that night (we collapsed)!

     

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