(Closed) Sexy and plus sized?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I truly think that would be lovely. But my suggestion is to go into a brick and motar shop and try some styles on before ordering online. You need to know what works on you! I tried on 100 dresses before I found mine. I kid you not. I’m the same size as you are, and it was very worth it.

Post # 5
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I tell you no lies – there was a lot of being frustrated. A big source of frustration was that I’m a size 14-16 US (so 18-20 UK), and that’s the dividing line between regular and plus sized. Most of the dresses came in either bridal size 10 US (6-8 street) (12 UK or 8-10 street) so it was hard to tell what they looked like on me. Did I have frumpy moments while trying on dresses? Yes. Did I have a moment of “Oh, God, I think I ripped that expensive wedding dress?” Oh yes. My best suggestions:

1) Bring a wonderful, supportive friend who knows your style. My best friend was absolutely fabulous and she knew what I wanted even before I did. But don’t bring too many people – that’s equally confusing.

2) Don’t put up with crap from sales associates. Tell them your budget and MAKE them stick to it. Don’t let them tell you you need to lose weight or ignore you because of your age. (True story, that happened a lot. I was 21 shopping for two years away and I often got ignored because of it.) 

3) Wear good undergarments that you’ll be comfortable with people seeing. For me, that was a strapless bra and a pair of Spanx – that way I felt comfortable when teh sales people were in the room with me. 

4) Really do try everything on. And dont’ get discouraged if there isn’t what you want right away. There’s less to try on in the plus sized area. But make a bunch of appointments and go with an open mind.

5) Make an appointment. The sales person will take you more seriously, especially since you’re young, and they’ll have more time to pick stuff out for you. Try to go in the morning on a weekday if you can – they REALLY have time for you then. But weekday over weekend.

6) Remember that your wedding dress is supposed to make you feel truly beautiful. Don’t settle for less because you don’t think you’ll find it. It took 8 or 9 stores before I gasped and said “I must wear this on my wedding day.” Before that it was “I could get married in this if I had to.” You have enough time to be choosy – you probably don’t need to order until August or September. 

ETA: Remember that what looks good on a size 4 girl might not look good on you. But don’t get stuck on the idea that you can’t pick something pretty or fashionable, because you totally can rock it! Even things like fit and flare look great on women with curves!

Post # 6
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that dress is beautiful. I love the lace sleeves. I agree with the last poster though, I would highly recommend going in and trying on different dresses. You never know what you will like/ not like on YOUR body versus what you like/not like IN A PICTURE. Makes a big difference. Good luck!

Post # 7
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1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

To a certain degree, if you wear dresses of any kind in regular daily life, you should have an idea from that as to what sihlouettes look good on you.  One thing I did before actually going to wedding dress stores is to browse thrift stores and try on various dress styles.  Didn’t matter if they were wedding or every day dresses.  Even found some bridesmaid dresses in my size.  The cut is the same, you just have to imagine it in a bridal color. 🙂  Your size number matters less than your shape and height when it comes to what will look good on you.  I’ve seen some plus sized brides post pics of themselves in slinky mermaid or fit and flare styles and they look AMAZING.  Those wouldn’t work as well on me, however. 

I agree with PPs, don’t take any flak from any sales associate.  If someone is rude, ask for another person to help you or, if necessary, go somewhere else!   I was very nervous about dress shopping until I actually did it then I realized it was silly.  If they want my money, then they’d better be nice!  I adjusted my attitude after encountering one snotty associate and after that I kept in mind just who has the upper hand (the one with the $$ to spend!)!

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