Shaking my head – epic crazy bridesmaid of the year?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Surely, she has to know that the bride gets some input into the choice of BM dresses!

I think this is a deliberate passive aggressive move on her part hoping you would be too intimidated to challenge her choices.

Post # 4
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929 posts
Busy bee

@June14Bride:  I get really annoyed when I hear stories of bridesmaids who treat their friends wedding as their own little beauty pageant. Of course you get say in what the dresses look like. It’s YOUR wedding full stop. 

 

Tell her her you don’t think that dress will work for your wedding/vision, whatever word you want to use, and continue to look for a dress. I have this feeling that this BM is going to be a pain in your arse, Lol. Just prepare yourself for more behaviour like this from her. 

Post # 5
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547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Since you’re paying you have a lot more leverage than if you were asking them to buy their own dresses. Just reiterate that the dresses are your treat and you’re sure she’ll find a good occasion to wear the one she’s bought. Then remind her to pick her favorites from the site you sent her as you totally want to take her preferences into consideration when you make the final pick. 

Post # 6
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Not even kidding, I have three of these- can we start making “bridesmaidzilla” a thing?! Lol. I originally chose 4 bridemaids, and these three basically added themselves (read: threw a super fit until I caved and said they could be bridesmaids and informed the others I could only go halves on their dresses because I couldn’t afford to buy 7, to avoid drama). Fortunately my original bridesmaids have my back, because these three contradict me on eeeeeverything- colour scheme (which is multicoloured but strictly autumn colours), hen-do venue, dress style etc. I can’t offer advice, as I have been useless in dealing with these three. I know people would just say “tell them not to be bridesmaids” but with the ego on these three it would end up ruining the whole wedding and it would not be worth it. What I can do is completely commiserate- selfish bridesmaids like these SUCK! 

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