Post # 1
I’ve just had a horrid wedding planning day (9 days out, band won’t do our first dance and seating chart arrived from printers blank!) and don’t feel I can make a fair decision.
A distant family member rsvp’d maybe, when pressed for an answer they said no. They now can make it if we can accommodate them.
my concerns are
1. it takes their table to 10 which is tight especially as my beloved grandfather is in a wheelchair at that table.I don’t even know if it’d fit and it’s not like a group of young friends who’d be fine sitting close to have fun, they’re all older and I want them to be comfortable.
2. I have to contact my venue for another drinks package, my caterer for more food, make 2 more payments to cover these as final payments have gone. I’d need another favour and place setting. I’d need to let my DOC know. It’s a lot and more expense and I’m stressed!
on the flip side I want to be a good host, this branch of the family always make an effort with me, they’ve already sent a nice gift and it’d be more fun for her husband who’s currently attending just with his mother and aunt.
What would you do?
Post # 2
Let them come. You sound like you are stressing way too much.
Post # 3
yorkshirerose : No two weddings are the same, but speaking personally, I’d probably let her come, because you say they always make an effort and her husband will be there. A lot would depend on point #1, physically fitting her in. (I wouldn’t do it if she didn’t have a track record of making an effort)
But then, I’m pretty efficient at payments/phone calls so your point #2 wouldn’t bother me much.
Post # 4
Yes I would definitely let her come.
Post # 5
Forgive me, but do people actually get their seating charts professionally done from a printer? Never heard this before 😊
Weddings shouldn’t be stressful. Let the guest come, but try to relax and enjoy the process 😊
Post # 6
I’d say let them come, on the day of, so many things will be going on and I’m sure they will be filled with happiness. If they feel uncomfortable with the seating, I’m sure they will find a way to make themselves comfortable, or they might not even be bothered at all!
Post # 7
So this is someone you originally invited? If so, I’m not sure what this has to do with the extra money. You would have had her there either way if she had said yes. There is not even any issue with the caterer adding a plate. The gracious thing to do is to include her.
Post # 8
yorkshirerose : Let the person come. Could you make two tables of five? How big are the tables?
Post # 9
We’ve got it all sorted now, wasn’t too bad in the end with some creative table juggling. Thanks for the perspective all.
In the last 3 months we’ve moved countries, had to live apart with our respective parents, put our lives in storage, house hunted, moved and started 2 new jobs. It has been a pretty overwhelming time and yesterday tipped me over the edge!
NDTieTheKnot : I’ve never seen a none professionally printed seating chart! except for chalkboard style things on blogs? My handwriting isn’t pretty enough to consider DIY!
weddingmaven : my band slapped a huge early set up fee on at last minute, we had a tiny % of guests decline (even less now!) but the money’s already gone. Thankfully FI got a huge pay rise today so it’s doable.