Post # 1
So, we’re on our honeymoon (finally – 7 months after the wedding). We have been having so much planning and looking forward to this – even packing was fun (we got some fancy new luggage). And now that we are here (10 days in Aspen, ski vacation!!) Darling Husband has hurt his back. He swears up and down that it will be better in a couple of days, and our ski tickets gave us three days to hang out and not ski anyway, but we’re sort of hanging around the condo – him moaning and complaining and lying on the floor, and me trying to figure out if there is some kind of Doc-in-the-Box that is open on Saturday, short of the emergency room, even though he will probably refuse to go.
Does anybody else have a FI/DH who is really difficult when he’s sick or injured? I swear, it’s like having a big, grumpy bear in the living room. And I’m not entirely sure what to do – other than ice, a heating pad, and Aleve, tossed from a distance so as not to get my hand bitten (just kidding about that part, but you get the picture). I thought I might not have much time on the laptop this week, but maybe I will after all.
Post # 3
So sorry this is happening! You certainly have my sympathy. Would a nice glass of wine help you deal with his crankiness? That is the best advice I have to offer. Good luck!!
Post # 4
Aww! I have no advice, but you have tons of sympathy! I hate that for ya’ll! Lots and lots of hugs!
Post # 5
Wine always helps!
Sorry this happened at what should be such a fun time.
Post # 6
UGH! I am sorry that this is happening! Just so you know most Doc in the boxes won’t help much and there is a BIG chance they will just send you to the ED so that way x-rays can be done! Tell him to go to the ED get some feel great drugs and then you can still enjoy your honeymoon! I have one just like him. What makes it worse he is a firefighter and thinks he can be tough and not have to worry about it! So I hope this helps a little! Good Luck!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry! When we were on a getaway in Maui a couple years ago, my guy was having back issues too– luckily we’d already done the more strenuous hiking/diving activities, and were ready to have a couple chill days. He wasn’t grumpy, but definitely had less energy because of the pain.
I’d planned a surprise spa day at the hotel hana-maui before we even got to the island, and it turned out his back acted up the day before. I kept teasing him that the surprise was going to be kayaking at 6 am… but he was happily surprised when we showed up at the spa. Anyways, the massage was great, and getting to do the sauna/pool hydrotherapy really helped his back.
Not sure how serious his injury is, but maybe you could book your hubby a hot stone treatment and just tell the therapists to do minimal manipulation so it doesn’t exacerbate the problem? Mud wraps might be nice too… Or drag him out to sit around in a hot tub instead of the living room… and feed him wine/champagne/beer? I hope these suggestions aren’t way off base.
Let us know how it goes– keeping my fingers crossed for you!
Post # 8
@renaissancetrophywife – I have been trying to talk him into a massage – the resort has massage therapists that will come to your room, and a spa on the premises. There is also a hot tub, and he sounds like he might be inclined to try that (he’s not normally a hot tub person – if is was me I would be in there camped in front of a jet already). I think I might book the massage, and if he’s still resistant, I’ll just have one myself. I could use it…
@everyone else – Good think we went to the wine shop and stocked up for the week last night! I actually thought about mixing a screwdriver this morning when he first hurt it… and a drink is sounding better and better. What the heck – we didn’t rent a car, so if we have to go to the emergency room, I’ll have to call a taxi anyway. Arrrrgh.
He’s actually cheering up a bit. He’s mostly really disappointed. I’ve been trying hard to sound like I don’t care – after all, we picked Aspen on purpose, because there is so much to do besides skiing – and I know if I’m upset he’ll just be more upset.
Post # 9
Ugh that is such crappy timing I’m so sorry!!
I definitely agree with the go drink some wine — and maybe get him a shot of bourbon to ease his pain! 🙂
Other then that — what about calling a taxi and asking for a $30 tour — they could just drive you aroudn to all the hot spots in Aspen so that you know where to go when he’s feeling a bit better. I’m sure he is super dissappointed that he is dissappointing you. Ugh just a terrible situation.
Would you ever go out by yourself? We went on a vacation last year and I had a bit of sun poisoning and fell asleep at seriously 6:30pm on the third day in paradise (Belize!) … I kind of woke up around 8 but was still not feeling well so I told him to go explore the bar right next door — he went for two drinks, chatted withthe bartender, came home and fell asleep with me. He said he missed me but I was so glad that I didnt make the night a complete loss. What about going and checking out some art galleries or something that he wouldnt really want to do with you anyway? Some boutiques, shops?
Good luck! Hope it gets better!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
aww i’m sorry suzanno! i think most men like to be babied a bit when they’re sick or hurt, so maybe that’ll help?
a night in with some movies, alcohol and games might not be what you had in mind for your honeymoon, but that sounds like a nice relaxing way to hang out.
i hope he feels better soon and you’re able to enjoy your beautiful aspen honeymoon!
Post # 11
If he is laid up for more than a couple of days I will definately go out by myself. I’ve skied Highlands and Snowmass quite a few times, and would be really comfortable doing that by myself even if it wouldn’t be as much fun as skiing with him. If he’s laid up tomorrow, I will definately go out and shop and gallery hop – everything is within walking distance, so it’s easy to drop back by the condo and check up on him. He’s like your guy humarock – he’s definately going to feel worse if I just sit around with him than if I at least go out and have a little bit of a good time. Since we have a kitchen, I’ll probably run to the grocery and the butcher shop and get something fabulous to cook rather than going to eat without him.
Post # 12
Awwww, I’m so sorry that happened to you! It’s so funny, when men or hurt or sick they just turn into big grumpy babies. I like the suggestions of boozing him up, maybe that will improve his mood and maybe even take a little edge off his pain. I hope the rest of your trip turns out better!
Post # 13
So sorry!! I know my Fiance gets upset when I try to help when he’s hurt. Mostly he hates the pity. So I don’t ask him (constantly) about his back although I want to! And I don’t keep suggesting other things to do because it reminds him of what he can’t. I usually just make him some great food (or order out) because at least he can still eat right? And Aspen has AMAZING food! Then rent a movie or something that you can cuddle up and watch. Don’t worry, his mood will improve as the pain subsides. Hope he’s better in a couple days!
Post # 14
Lol. I’m sorry I am laughing-merely because I went on a vacay with my man to Spain and everything thwarted our plans: the royal wedding, my man got viral meningitis. I was a little freaked out but- it’s like Murphy’s Law! Poor you.
Anyhow. My man doesn’t like to be coddled when he is unwell. He just likes to be left alone.
But from my experience with most of the hispanic men in my family who want to be thoroughly babied: Just make sure you give him motrin to decrease any inflammation and pain relief, have plenty of "comfort food" around… find out what his fav food is and try to get it. (I usually make my man when he has a cold ginger tea, ginger soup, grapes, crackers with jam/or cheese.)
And maybe grab some movies to just enjoy being snuggled up together! =o) Good luck.
Post # 15
So sorry to hear that he’s in pain! But glad to hear he’s cheering up a bit, and that you’re definitely determined to make the best of it and not let it get you down.
I second the ideas for massages, wine, and cozy nights/afternoons snuggling with a good movie. Turn on some music, light some candles, get some hot chocolate and indulgent treats to try at the grocery store. Some of my best memories from ski trip come from cuddling up with a good book together in front of the fireplace.
We’ll be sending good wishes in your direction!
Post # 16
I’m so sorry!
My honey turns into a big, cranky baby when he’s sick or hurt, even though I have to "power through" even when I have a high fever and am throwing up constantly.
I agree — wine and some time, then maybe a proper doc appointment on Monday?