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    Lorienne    January 1, 2016   Los Angeles, CA

    Sadly I'm not trying to fit into a beautiful wedding gown, but I am trying to get into shape.  A month ago I started watching what I eat very carefully and going to the gym.  This past weekend I hired a personal trainer.  Expensive but I need all the help I can get if I'm going to win this lifelong battle with my weight.

    So far I'm down 10lbs since starting.  I'm sure a lot if it is water weight and I have a long way to go, but I'm excited!

    Anyone else trying to get healthy, either for their big day or just in general?

    Let's support one another! 

     
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    Chianti    July 23, 2010   Northern Virginia

    I'm game! I also am focusing more on getting healthy and in shape rather than losing weight. I do have a gown that looks beautiful on me the way I am now; I'm simply not happy with the way I feel or look. For me, it's about making better choices and getting moving - oh, did I mention I HATE exercise? So this will be fun.

    I has also struggled most of my life with weight issues, so I understand what it feels like. I've never tried going the support group route before - maybe it'll be helpful. On the recommendations from other Bees, I joined the Daily Plate (http://www.livestrong.com/thedailyplate/). It's a free site with lots of info and a place to track your food, exercise, etc.

    Congrats on your progress so far! Even if it is only water weight, who cares? It's a start! Good for you that you can afford the personal trainer. I hope to do that someday, but as of now I'm unemployed, so it'll have to wait.

    Let's help each other! 

     
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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    Congrats on the weight loss!  I just started my diet yesterday. (Tuesday after Memorial Day.) Tonight, I went to dinner with a friend and ordered a healthy and quite delicious salad. Then, she surprised me with a hot fudge sundae for my birthday.  I didn't want to be rude after she had gone to the effort to do something so nice, so I had to have some.  Oh well, back to the drawing board for me.  On the upside, the sundae was fabulous. 

     
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    Chianti    July 23, 2010   Northern Virginia

    Well, birthdays are a special occassion, so allowing for that is a good thing. And wouldn't it have just sucked if the sundae was horrible? :0) Happy Belated Birthday to you @Soon2BeMrsC! (which will also be my new last initial! I wasn't even thinking about that when I made my username, but it does fit - Miss C & Mr. C....ha!)

    What's difficult is to remember that it's only one day out of the year, and that all we have to do is make the next meal healthy! It's so easy to just say, well, I blew it anyway, so why bother. But it's that kind of mentality that has always worked against me. I think the trick for me is to take it one meal at a time. If you have one meal (or snack) that doesn't exactly fit the bill, the just start over again with the next meal.

    I'm sort of working doubly hard as I'm also trying to get healthier and in better shape before I get pregnant. I know it's weird to say I'm thinking about pregnancy before I'm even married yet, but when you're my age and only have a few precious years before conceiving will become even more difficult, we don't want to waste too much time. So, I'm really working hard to understand more about nutrition and eating healthier, and less about losing weight. I figure if I eat healthy and start to get more exercise, the weight will take care of itself. For me, it has to be about lifestyle change, and not simply yet another diet. It needs to be something I can continue for the rest of my life without feeling deprived or like I'm missing out.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    @Chianti, I think it's wonderful you're trying to lose weight before conceiving. Excess weight is hard on the baby and can make conception really difficult. My ex's sister was told to lose a lot of weight before she got pregnant and ignored the doctor (she was really mad, how dare he, etc etc, but she was 150 lb overweight) and while he came out ok in the long run, i'm sure it was really hard on her body. I've lost all the weight I wanted to (i had surgery and packed on quite a few) but now i'm focusing on toning up and how i feel. So it feels less like "i'm on a diet" which is punishment. 

    It does have to be a lifestyle change. Have you considered seeing a dietician? I used to live on fast food and junk. While I still would love to eat pizzas and stuff everyday, I try to focus on how much BETTER I feel and how much better I digest food, the energy i have, etc, when I eat better. I notice that when I don't go to the gym, I start nodding off at 8pm like an old lady! 

    Start with little swaps and move your way up. I was a 2% milk addict and now i'm on skim. I made it a point to throw a couple new items in my grocery cart every week even if they were "weird" and sometimes I like them and sometimes I don't. I surprised myself by how much I like tofu! If it's cooked right. And how MUCH I enjoy those lady's classes that I used to make fun of, like step class! I also keep a food log. It feels obsessive, but sometimes I think "oh man i hit right around 1400 cal's today, yay!" and then I look back and go, "no wait....more like 1800". Weigh out your portions, too. I couldn't believe a "serving" of rice was a measly half cup or whatever, not a whole bowl! ha. 

    Don't weigh yourself everyday or you'll go crazy =]. Get taped by your trainer. That's the REAL weight loss measure. Also consider buying a scale with a body fat% calculator in it. You need a good one or it won't measure right though. 

    Also, i bought "hungrygirls' 200 recipes for under 200 calories" and she is a huge advocate of things tasting non-diet but still good. And lots of small meals throughout the day instead of more traditional square meals. 

    I love when people are motivated to get healthy. I'm still working on my FI, who's one of those people who can eat whatever they want and stay skinny. I think I'm slowly breaking the wall down. He TRIED boca meat with eggbeaters. Hated it. But he TRIED it! LoL

     
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    teeleaf22    June 11, 2010   Milford, PA (wedding in Easton, PA)

    I'm in... have been on weight watchers since late Feb and have lost 12 lbs so far. This past holiday weekend was killer for me. Although I cooked and I made very figure friendly meals that everyone enjoyed and everything I made went ont he grill I drank way too much sangria (that I made) and I think I packed on a couple over the weekend. Ugh it's like a rollercoaster.. so hard to get back on after a long weekend of eating and drinking so have to get back on the wagon today. Do want to lose weight to feel better in a wedding dress but Ultimately I want to do it to feel better and be healthy.

     
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    Lorienne    January 1, 2016   Los Angeles, CA

    Yay, friends to lose with!   Thanks ladies for joining me.   

    Chianti, you are SO RIGHT about starting over with the very next meal (vs. next day, or next week, or "oh, it's almost the end of the month, I'll start again on the first".  Been there, done ALL that and all it does is pack on more pounds during the "waiting period" before you're good again.

     I did WW once and was successful but the MINUTE I stopped counting points the weight came back, and for me counting points every day forever is not sustainable. 

    What is working for me, nutritionally:

    -Bare minimum "sweets".  Can't say I'll never have them again but I avoid them and when it's really hard not to (example, yesterday there was a birthday in the office) I have a tiny piece.  I go by the three bite rule. If I can eat something in three small bites or less, once in a while, it's not going to hurt me.

    -only good carbs.  Whole grain bread and pasta, brown rice.  I'm not so good at sticking to brown rice only though.  I have it relatively rarely -- mostly I have bread.

    -No carbs after lunch.  Ever.

    -Medium sized breakfast, larger lunch, smaller dinner and 3 very small snacks.  

    -I also have it set up that I get one "cheat" meal per week.  One week I get to have one breakfast of whatever I want.  The next week, one lunch.  The following week, one dinner and the last week of the month, one dessert.  However, I rarely indulge in these "cheat" meals because I either forget or I decide it's not worth undoing my work at the gym over it.  Shape up with me?  I could use the support! :  wedding Icon Biggrin

    The best thing about working on myself like this is that just knowing I'm doing it helps me feel better about myself.  When I'm not being healthy, I feel worse emotionally.  If that makes sense?

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    vistagirl    march , 2010   Oregon

    i'm in! I posted my HS prom pic on the fridge to remind me of how good a shape I used to be in (aahh 16yr old metabolism) and I try to walk at lunch anyone have good advice on joining a gym? What to look for what to watch out for? I keep flashing to the episode of friends where chandler tries to quit the gym and they get Ross to join lol

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    vistagirl -- i came across my HS prom picture too and was FLOORED on how I looked then. Its my motivator (much better than the unattainable VS model look).

    As far as joining a gym, look for one that doesn't have a cancellation fee or a long term commitment. If for any reason you want to cancel, it is a total pain! I joined the sports club in DC and had to give them my parents address in Upstate NY to get out of the contract, its ridiculous to get locked in that way. I totally felt like Ross. Also, most gyms have one week or two week trials (I know Bally's does) so take advantage of those for like a month, and you'll get a better idea of where you should end up.

    Right now, I'm in the process of doing WW and light workouts (mostly walking outside), I try to do the 30 Day Shred on Comcast but Jillian Michaels makes me frustrated! I do a food log too. One of my tricks is that when I'm done in the kitchen after each meal, I turn off the light and don't go back in. I use the living room for paperwork and stuff, that way I'm not tempted. I've also read that if you make go to snacks harder to access,  you won't get tempted. For example, when you close a bag of chips, tape it down or put it in the back of the pantry so you are less likely to go back. Also, don't eat things out of the container, always portion them out on a plate (if you sit with a bag of chips on your lap you will most def. indulge more!

     

     
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    itopiler    9/4/09   NJ

    Hey Guys,

    Getting in shape for the wedding is awesome! Sounds like you guys are already doing lots of great things! I am a nutritionist and certainly using my own advise for the wedding. I do a really great 3 week cleanse that helps with weight loss and general well being and aids in developing good eating habits. If anyone is interested, I would be happy to get you the information and it can be done regardless of where you are located so its not a problem if you do not live near me. You can get some more information at www.CompleteNutritionAndWellness.com and i would be happy to help in any way i can!

     

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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    A trainer I met once advocated 3 cheat meals a week. Then, it forces you to plan as much as you can and it provides more room than cheating for a whole day so you don't just throw a whole day away. I thought this was really interesting advice and it's what they tell all their clients!

     
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    Sweet tooth    September 5, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    I'm in!! I started yesterday by doing the 30 day shed video. My body is not happy today!

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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    Sweet tooth -- don't you just want to punch Jillian Michaels int he fast when you are doing the squat punches? lol... i love how she is always like "I have 400 lb. people doing jumping jacks, there is no way to make this easier, just do it"... I hate her sometimes.

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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Is that Shred video any good? I am recently hearing hype about it.

    The gym teachers at my gym are coinstantly going, "it's bikini time ladies! Nobody wants a flabby belly, let's go, you can do it!" and i wanna be like "yeah you're the one up there in just your bra top looking fab...i hate you" Shape up with me?  I could use the support! :  wedding Icon Wink

     
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    Chianti    July 23, 2010   Northern Virginia

    @ejs4y8 -- well, I don't have so much to lose before getting pregnant; my doc has said she sees no reason why conceiving would be a problem. I'm more concerned with gaining too much during the preganancy and then not being able to lose if afterward, which seems to be a tendency that runs in my family. I'm hoping that being in better shape before the pregnancy will help with this trend for me... :0)

    It's just more about being genearlly more healthy for me.

     

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