Share the &%$# Thermostat!!! *rant*

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who controls the thermostat in your house?
    We both compromise and adjust it accordingly : (88 votes)
    64 %
    My SO/FI/DH controls the thermostat. : (19 votes)
    14 %
    I am the only one who controls the thermostat. : (12 votes)
    9 %
    Work stinks - let's all just go home. : (18 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Same situation for me and opposite circumstances.  SO has been trying to turn the a/c off and sleep with the windows open because its cooling off a little bit.  Well….last night it was HOT!  SO was sweating, I was very uncomftorable…so I went and closed the windows and turned the a/c on.  SORRY SWEETIE!  Two people live here!! UGH

    Post # 4
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    My husband loves it cold too. However, if I tell him to turn off a fan or close the window, he does. If I am cold, he cuddles or gives me all the blankets, lol. It hasn’t been a huge issue for us, certainly not something we fight about. We have been known to have the fireplace in our room on and the fan beside the bed blowing on him, lol.

    OP, it is a small issue but he should still be willing to compromise. It is not his way or the highway. If anything, he should go in the basement if he is so hot or else you could always be helpful and dump some ice water over his inconsiderate head 🙂

    Post # 5
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Could you get a twin comforter for yourself so it won’t have to be on his side of the bed too? ?I wouldn’t be able to even sleep if I were that cold! or get a comforter and he can sleep on top of it and you under!

    Post # 6
    6977 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d just get a comforter for my side of the bed. I sleep like crap when I’m hot so I can see his point of view too.

    Post # 8
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @GonnaBeMrsB:  Some places carry these heated matress pads. It’s like an electric blanket, but each person can control their side of the pad, so while I like to sleep in an igloo, DH likes to sleep in a sauna, so this works best for us. I couldn’t allow hi mto sleep with more blankets becuase he would get hot in the middle of the night and ball them in the middle of my back, and I’d wake up with horrible back pain, but if it was kept too cold he would toss and turn to keep warm, ultimately disturbing my sleep (and his own).

    So the heated matress pad was the only thing that has worked.

    Post # 9
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @GonnaBeMrsB:  That makes no sense! If he is always hot, he should love having your cold body next to him, lol. My husband always says I am lucky to always be so cool and I say he is lucky to always be so warm. I literally use him for his body heat and then push him away when I get too hot 😛 I also have a puppy I cuddle with on my other side.

    You should agree to a set temperature in the house – that is what we have done. AC is set to a certain temperature in the summer, and heat is set to a specific temperature in the winter. If either of us is too hot or too cold we take measures other than changing the house temperature, i.e. a fan, an extra blanket, cuddling, whatever.

    Messed up sleep really messed up your day! He is a jerk face.

    Post # 11
    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    He usually is the one who controls it but he will adjust accordingly if I say I’m too cold or hot. 

    Post # 12
    3698 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m going to be the voice of dissent. I think you are WAY overreacting. If you are cold, why should your DH have to get up and get you a blanket? Go get it yourself. If you are cold in bed, and DH is comfortable, just get another blanket.

    If you are cold, it is easy to fix – wear a sweatshirt, get another blanket, etc. If he is hot, there is nothing he can do to fix it.

    I say this as a person who is ALWAYS cold. DH is generally comfortable or hot. If it’s 75 degrees in the house, I have a blanket covering me. I can fix it. He can’t. So I wear more clothes and use more blankets.

    Post # 13
    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @GonnaBeMrsB:  I wish I had advice for you. I don’t have this problem at all. It’s always hot here (Florida), and I love it really cold at night. My boyfriend is pretty much okay with anything. We keep it at 70 degrees at night, we have a medium thickness blanket, and if one of us is cold, the other one will cuddle up to them. If for some reason I’m still hot, one of us will get up and turn the AC down, or we’ll adjust the blanketing accordingly. If I wake up in the middle of the night and I’m cold, I’ll wake him up so he’ll cuddle with me to make me warmer. I’d just have a talk with your fiance and tell him that you’re upset, and that you guys need to compromise some more. 


    Post # 14
    6194 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    Can’t you just wear heavier clothes to bed or make the extra blanket a permanent fixture? Some people just CAN’T sleep when it’s too warm- 75 would be too hot for me to sleep. It’s not like he can sleep with a lighter blanket if it’s warmer. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect you to sleep with a different blanket than him.

    Post # 15
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @GonnaBeMrsB:  if i were you, i would make the bed up with what you needed on it; top sheet, thin blanket, comforter.  if your fi does not want the comforter, he can take it off of himself.  there’s no reason for you to be cold.

    as for the room temperature, i think there should be a compromise.  also, think about the cost to run your a/c when it’s not necessary.  silly.  i don’t know what you wear to bed but maybe you both need to dress accordingly.  pj’s or buff.

    Post # 16
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I run our thermostat for the most part because I am in charge of budgetting our utility payments.  I keep it a little warmer than we both would like because we live in Florida and it’s really expensive to run your A/C below 78 degrees.  That said, when it is cold outside, I run the heat really low and stack on the blankets to keep warm.  I also have a heating pad for when I get really cold because he can’t stand a stuffy heated house.  I can always put on more cloths/blankets to get warm but he can’t sleep if he’s hot.

    My FI sleeps on top of my comforter which I change out depending on the season.  He has his own lighter comforter he uses.  So I can be warm and we don’t ahve to share comforters.

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