(Closed) Share your crazy "stress" moments…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My biggest stress was the uninvited child of my SIL’s brother coming to the wedding.  I’m not a big fan of my SIL’s brother in the first place, and neither is DH, but I adore the rest of her family, so I couldn’t invite all of them, and not him.  That being said, his child is a complete and total brat.  I had visions of him throwing a tantrum during the ceremony, and wreaking havoc during the reception, so we didn’t invite him.  BIL of course added him onto his RSVP without asking if it was ok.

It turns out that they didn’t even attend the ceremony, and while he was a bit of a handful during the reception, I personally didn’t see him that much, so really, I stressed over nothing.  I literally spent hours agonizing over this, and bitching to I don’t know how many people before the wedding, and after the wedding?  Like I said, I barely even noticed that he was there. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m right there with you. I went into wedding planning intending to be very chill, unconcerned, and not worried about “all those little things” because I couldn’t understand what the big deal was. One of my stresses that just hasn’t gone away is whether to invite people from work– I don’t even work there anymore, but I’m still friends with many of them, but not all, and I just feel like there would be a lot of weirdness if I invited the very small number that I would like. And there’s not really space for even those.

Flowers have also been a big outlet for obsessing. I’ve been coming up with a zillion ways to do DIY flowers, all kinds of wholesale combinations and figuring out how I’m going to have time to do them… and then totally changed gears to getting them from a local farmer who I’ve known forever, and she’s doing the bouts and corsages. Not quite a 180 of plan, but definitely a big shift.

I still feel like I’ve avoided a lot of little things I could have dug into, but sometimes I feel like the things I’m obsessing over are kind of a way to work through my feelings about marriage and my own weirdnesses. Choosing to see it as a useful thing!

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