(Closed) Share your readings for your ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

This was one of ours: 

True love ’s the gift which God has given

To man alone beneath the heaven:

It is not fantasy’s hot fire,

Whose wishes soon as granted fly;

It liveth not in fierce desire,

With dead desire it doth not die;

It is the secret sympathy,

The silver link, the silken tie,

Which heart to heart and mind to mind

In body and in soul can bind.

Post # 5
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Fiance and I aren’t religious at all, but our families are. My family is Irish so we found a traditional Irish blessing to have a friend read that struck a great balance between religious/non religious to keep both us and the families happy.


May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

May God be with you and bless you:
May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortunes,
and rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.

Post # 7
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Here are the two we used:



By Wilferd Arlan Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. The “little” things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say, “I love you” at least once a day.

It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.


This is the Apostle Paul’s treatise on love from the 13th chapter of his first letter to the Corinthians, but in Eugene Peterson’s surprising translation:

“If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.  If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere.  No matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.  Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the faults of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel. Instead, Love takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.  Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; intellectual understanding will reach its limit.  We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete.  But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.  When I was an infant, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.  We don’t see things clearly yet. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God  completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the greatest of these is love.”

Post # 9
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I have a few, hang on let me find them!

Post # 10
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Union by Robert Fulghum – (to be read by FI’s sister)

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.


A MARRIAGE By Michael Blumenthal – (to be read by 1 of my brothers)

You are holding up a ceiling
with both arms. It is very heavy,
but you must hold it up, or else
it will fall down on you. Your arms
are tired, terribly tired,
and, as the day goes on, it feels
as if either your arms or the ceiling
will soon collapse.

But then,
something wonderful happens:
a man or a woman,
walks into the room
and holds their arms up
to the ceiling beside you.

So you finally get
to take down your arms.
You feel the relief of respite,
the blood flowing back
to your fingers and arms.
And when your partner’s arms tire,
you hold up your own
to relieve him again.

And it can go on like this
for many years
without the house falling.



Not sure what this one is called, sorry! – (to be read by my other brother)

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficult and fear assail your relationship – as they threaten all relationships at one time or another – remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.


What do you think!?  I’ve only shared these with 2 of my BMs so far and no one else!

Post # 11
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Our reading was “A Lovely Love Story” by Edward Monkton.  It’s about dinosaur love 🙂

Post # 13
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We are not religious but are being forced to have a church wedding, so we’ve tried to find Bible readings without mention of God. This is one:

Song of Solomon 2:10-13
My beloved speaks and says to me:
‘Arise, my love, my fair one,
   and come away; 
11 for now the winter is past,
   the rain is over and gone. 
12 The flowers appear on the earth;
   the time of singing has come,
and the voice of the turtle-dove
   is heard in our land. 
13 The fig tree puts forth its figs,
   and the vines are in blossom;
   they give forth fragrance.
Arise, my love, my fair one,
   and come away. 
14 O my dove, in the clefts of the rock,
   in the covert of the cliff,
let me see your face,
   let me hear your voice;
for your voice is sweet,
   and your face is lovely. 
16 My beloved is mine and I am his;
   he pastures his flock among the lilies. 
6 Set me as a seal upon your heart,
   as a seal upon your arm;
for love is strong as death,
   passion fierce as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
   a raging flame. 
7 Many waters cannot quench love,
   neither can floods drown it.
If one offered for love
   all the wealth of one’s house,
   it would be utterly scorned.

We are debating whether to have this one, although it’s very very short.

Ruth 1:16-17
But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried.”

It says we both have the same God, but we will choose to interpret it as us having the same spiritual beliefs.

Post # 14
43 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

@juliepants – that is called the apache wedding blessing.

my friend used it in her ceremony, it was nice.

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