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This post is inspired by Miss Pencils' post about her fears for her wedding day! I know we all have them and I know that for a lot of us if we told our fiances/friends/family they would probably either tell us we're crazy or tell us that everything will be just fine! So ladies, what are your wedding day fears....I'll start with mine!
I fear....
-That the DJ and/or photographer won't show up
-That my photos will suck big time
-That we won't have enough rooms for guests to stay in
-That one of my best friends (whos a bridesmaid) will get really drunk and end up crying in the bathroom
-That it will be so hot I wont want to move
-That I will get my period even though its supposed to be the week before
-That I wont get to spend enough time with the people I care most about
-That I will be really anxious (i have an anxiety disorder) and have a panic attack
Okay Im sure I could come up with more things...but those are what is on my mind right now! What about you?
Even though it's not a super happy thread, I love it! It helps to talk about this. Here are mine:
- That I won't sleep at all the night before and will be a zombie all day, visible in pictures
- That it will rain all day with no sun for photos and ruin our fun plans
- That I won't look good in my dress, or my hair will look bad
- That people won't have a good time and leave early
- The kids will take over and cry through the ceremony and break into the reception, even though they are banned from entering.
- My Mom will flip out and stress me out all day, like she did at my Sisters wedding
I'm not really afraid of vendors not showing up (hope I'm not jinxing myself) b/c we have hired very reliable people with backups and a DOC with two assistants. All our vendors are practically family and have done each others weddings, so I'm not worried. And I feel like if anyone was not going to show up, our DOC could find a replacement in a snap.
@moderndaisy- youre right its not a super happy thread! But, it does help to talk about our fears so we can realize that they might not be that big of a deal AND that we are not alone in feeling the way we do!
Oh, actually I have two to add:
- Also afraid of the lunar cycle happening. I have very bad luck with this, once it lasted 2 weeks!!! through our Cabo trip. Don't ask me how that's even possible.
- Also have a BM who will most likely be crying in the bathroom or all day while we're getting married. She cries on the phone to me at least 2wice a week about how lonely and single she is. This is her first time as a BM, I don't know if she can handle it..
I'm mostly just worried about rain. We're having an outdoor wedding, so rain would REALLY suck.
I have the same fear of rain because im having an outdoor reception. Also that everything will get started late and that i will have to walk down the ilse with make up and hair half done.
rain.. and that FH wont like me in my dress oh hang on.. he pointed that out tonight.. so now im worried that it will happen twice!! two biggest biggest fears at the moment.
Sigh...so here are mine
- NUMBER ONE : So scared of all the attention being on me!!
- I will be on my cycle on my day!
- I will trip while walking down the aisle.
- I will cry so hard that I sob and ruin my make-up
- I will have a bad breakout on my face
- I won't get to spend enough time with everyone
- It will go by too quickly
- The decorations won't come out the way that I envision them
- My hands will be sweaty! Yuck!
- One of my Bridesmaids will act up
- That I won't get enough sleep the night before
I know I have more..I just can't think of them now
I'm having anxiety about my first entrance, i'm afraid of getting stage fright and not coming out at all. and that no one will have a good time and leave early.
oh boy!!!
Does feel good to get that off the chest and try to move on :-)
Oy, here go my fears:
I fear that...
-that the DJ will suck and ruin the evening
-that the photographer will take nothing but crappy shots
-that I will look like a white whale with birdwing arms
-that I will spill wine and BBQ sauce all over my gown
-that my new husband will hate the reception and end the night pissed
-that my family will cause a scene
-that my autistic quirks will get out of control with my anxiety, making me spend the day miserable and twitchy, trapped in my own body
-that I will run away from my own wedding to escape all the people
-that i will look back on the day with regret (cause it was crappy, not cause I married FI)
-that, because no one will allow me to set up the reception hall, everything will be done wrong and look horrible and make me cry
I fear that -
-FMIL will object to our vows.
-some guests will get obnoxiously drunk.
-FMIL will do something at the reception, if she didnt ruin the vows...
-FMIL will show up on our honeymoon. SURPRISE!
is anyone seeing a trend here?
- That it will raaaaaaaaaaaain! We're doing our dance floor outside and if it rains, it'll be really cramped inside.
- That parents won't pay attention to the "Childcare provided" during the ceremony and we'll have kids talking and crying during our vows.
- That my flowers won't look awesome (for someone who thought they didn't care about flowers, I really do care alot)
- The ugly cry. 'Nough said.
that is RAINS! my ceremony is supposed to be outdoors!! i've been praying every night for perfect weather:)
- My man will hate my dress
- I will sob so badly that I ruin my day (I am a very emotional person and cry at everything. If you post something sweet or sad on WB I've probably sat here and shed a tear for/with you. I'm not a pretty crier, but I'm working on it)
- My mom will stress me out by the things she says OR wears
- Dad drama (bio. father/adopted father, step father will all be there and all have problems with alcohol)
-^^^^plus, I am clueless as to who to walk with/dance with. My mom refuses to be the one who walks me down the aisle and that was my original plan :(
-My new in-laws won't have a good time.
- I worry that my lovely little sister (18 years old) won't come to my reception or stay very late, or have a breakdown and it will be my fault. She does not like crowds and is really self-conscious. I feel kind of guilty for asking her to be in the wedding party... but she is my only sister and I really wanted her to do it... but it's the kind of thing you really can't say "no" to and now I feel like I trapped her in a position she doesn't want to be in.
Also.. I'm nervous about the best man. Is anyone else nervous about that?
Rain, definitely rain, definitely definitely (in best Rainman impression...)
And that no one dances....Yikes!
@noodlefish - are you saying youre nervous the best man will say something to embarrass you or your fiance?? Im not nervous about this because of who he chose but if it had been someone else I might be!
Rain. Just about everything is outside so it would definitely put a hamper on things. Even the barn has huge slats in the walls. Great for letting light in, but also lets everything else in too
Getting a cold sore. They're gross and disgusting and decided UNwedding-like. I had a few when I was little and then only one in the last few yrs, but I don't really have what one would call "good luck", and I can totally see it happening and not being able to do the whole "kiss the bride" part.
Anything else I think I can deal with. Either of those would cause me, most likely, to just not show up.
Oh, I've got a few of these for sure. I worry about:
--not sleeping at all the night before and being too exhausted
--getting food poisoning/the stomach flu (or that my FI will) and being incredibly sick. Or really any illness that would make either one of us extremely ill on the wedding day (this is a totally irrational one, yes)
--my out-of-control five-year-old cousin disrupting the ceremony, running around screaming during the reception, spilling something on me, etc
--and this is the big one: my FMIL passed away suddenly a few weeks ago. Our wedding isn't for seven more months, but I still worry that my FI and FFIL will be so sad about her not being there that they won't enjoy the wedding at all.
@carrieasb - Im so sorry to hear about your FMIl :-(
Im sure the next 7 months wont be easy without her, but at the same time Im sure your FFIL and FI will make sure you have a wonderful day. Maybe you could do something to commemorate her during the ceremony or wear a piece of her jewelry or something??
And I too fear getting sick/food poisoning!! I have a sensitive stomach so sometimes Ill just randomly get sick....Im just hoping that it doesnt happen that day!
I can't believe my wedding is in 3 weeks. Right now, I am most worried:
-mother and I will get in a fight ending me in tears
-stomach will be bloated
-trip down the staircase before I walk down the aisle
-cry like mad during the ceremony making face & eyes red and swollen all day
- getting period
- dj will suck
-people will not have fun or dance
- I will look bad in photos
- FI will be sunburned and lobster like in photos.
Feels better to write them down. I was also worried about not being able to sleep the night before the wedding- but I got a prescription for Ambien.
@clarebee, thank you for your support! That was nice of you to say. I'm already trying to think about how to include memories of her into our wedding. She and I were not particularly close, so I'm doing okay, but my FI is still really grieving and missing her. He has said many times with no hesitations that he wants to continue with the wedding, but I do still worry that he won't enjoy it out of sadness.
1. Bad hair. I have had multiple dreams of my wedding day with bad hair, now its a fear for me lol
2. I am afraid my FI friends will get too drunk and act stupid.
3. I am afraid one of my friends will get drunk and act stupid
Ugh it's the stuff nobody wants to talk about but it feels good to get them out
1. that it will rain (ceremony is supposed to be outside and we would like pics outside too)
2. A certain family member will get drunk and embarass me in front of my new family and friends
3. That I will look fat next to all my skinny wedding party
4. That my hair and makeup will look bad
5. That I will get sick or have my period
6. That I wont' sleep and will feel awful the entire day and not enjoy myself as much as I'd like
7. That the violinist and/or DJ will suck
shew..that felt good!
i'm afraid of 100mph wind. and the youtube video of a reporter being blown off the steps of my venue.
Thank you for this post! I fear:
- That I will gain enough weight between now and then that my dress won't fit
- That I will fall down the stairs that I will have to descend to get to the ceremony
- Of everyone staring at me (I know this is going to happen)
- Of it raining keeping our ceremony from being outside
- Of (if the ceremony is outside) the train that runs on the tracks near our ceremony blowing it's whistle during the vows
- Of the ceremony vows themselves, I am terrified of public speaking
- Of the first dance - I don't know how to dance
- Of our first kiss looking silly
I worry about everything, in case you can't tell.
these are my fears
- rain
- no one coming
- food being bad
- nobody having fun
-family drama
-skin breakout
-crying too much to get my vows out
-the reception tables won't look as beautiful as I imagine
That's my list!
I'll share... I've been pretty stressed lately. Thanks for starting this post.
I fear for:
1. Not being able to sleep the night before (since turning 30, I can't do all nighters anymore... the next day I always feel sick and pukey with a sore throat).
2. Looking like a zombie and gross (bad skin, greasy face, dark circles and zits) because of lack of sleep
3. People not having fun and not dancing
4. Rain because we're having an outdoor ceremony
5. Tripping while I walk down the aisle... tears and all.
Big blow out with my mom
One of my bridesmaids starting to act up/get an attitude
Being too nervous to enjoy myself
Being sick
- That it will RAIN!!!
-That one or more of my vendors won't show up.
-That something will happen to my dress or someone else's attire.
I'm afraid I'm going to be late. I know, I know, it's okay to wait for the bride since she's the star (forget about FI) lol but I know myself, I get a little unhinged (as FI calls me instead of calling me crazy) and that will throw off the whole day and make me unbearable. I figure the only thing that I really have control of it myself. Everything else I'm taking a c'e le vie attitude to. (I apoligize for my French as I took Italian). So my main fear is me being not ready and late.
My worries:
Dress won't fit just right
Hair/makeup won't look fabulous
Walking down the aisle (tripping, crying)
Vows (crying!!)
Food isn't good
First dance-don't like the idea of dancing while everybody is watching!
People don't dance much
Haha awh, yes this comes with the territory I suppose.
Not so much a fear, but I know I'm going to CRY, so I hope that I can at least gain my composure back. I need waterproof EVERYTHING!
My biggest fear is family drama, that and friend drama. We're inviting friends that introduced us but they have been really cold and distant lately... we'll see how that goes.
I'm not too worried about my cycle, I talked with my Gyno, and she said if it happens that I am due to get it that day, that I can for that time only, skip my placebo week and just start with a fresh pack. But, we'll see, here's hoping that I won't have it. If it does happen, so be it, it wouldn't be the worst thing to happen.
Although this thread isn't sunshine and unicorns (in the words of Miss Scissors), I love knowing that I am not the only one with crazy fears.
I fear that there will not be enough candy in the buffet and that people will just eat it like salivating pigs!
I fear that I will have a really bad hair day forever emblazened in my photos!
I fear that my Dad might cut off one of the groomsmen! (And I fear the fight that will follow, BAD.)
I fear my period on that day too! Worse, I fear my period on the honeymoon!! :oP
@rabbit - Don't worry about the twitchies! After the nervous down the aisle wedding part is over, put a mom or someone in charge of fielding vendors and you will have a blast spending time with your new husband!
@cupcake26 - I hope your FMIL doesn't show up at the honeymoon! OMG!
@carrie.a.s.b - Death sucks. It just does. But the one thing you have to remind your FI (and hopefully, someone will remind your FFIL too), is that she wouldn't want to see him sulking on his wedding day. You can't stop living your life just because someone you love isn't there anymore. Know that she'll be up there in heaven watching all of you having a blast and wouldn't want it anyother way!
I love this post. In fact, last night I had a dream about how EVERYTHING went wrong the day of the wedding.
My fears include:
Everything running behind schedule before the ceremony
My hair and make-up looking less than
My vendors being late or not showing up
People not having a good time, not liking the food, the small details, dancing, etc.
My feet hurting (I am looking into wearing flip flops at the reception
People eating all the candy at the buffet (just take a little... I am planning on making the bags I order smaller than they come)
People leaving early because they are bored, tired, etc.
However, I hope to plan between now and then so that most of the stuff I can control doesn't go wrong. If it does... it does and there is nothing I can do about it. I've realized that I just have to deal with things and that people will decide what they will.
GREAT TOPIC!
Mine are mostly weather related, and the reason I am so hung up on them is because they are likely!
- I'm worried it will be sweltering hot (outdoor wedding and reception in the South in June) and that's all our guests will remember, despite all our efforts to alleviate the heat (fans, lots of icy drinks, tent).
- I'm worried it will rain and ruin all our plans that were going to be outdoors (DIY photobooth, kids activities, etc.)
I'm also worried that...
- FI won't like my dress (he pointed out a picture in a magazine of a nearly identical dress and said he didn't like it!)
- A kid will knock over the cake
- Our guests will not enjoy themselves and it will be a lot of money wasted
- Our after party won't be a rip-roaring dance party and instead be awkward and everyone will want to leave
Whew, it feels great to be able to say these things and not have someone interject and tell me that I am an over-worrier!
I am scared it will:
- Dump down rain or,
- Be over 30 degrees Celsius
- My dad will make me do the ugly cry (because he is crying)
- I will burst out laughing during the ceremony (me and FH don't take things very seriously)
- My hair/makeup will be a disaster (I am sure I will not be worried after my trial)
- People won't understand the gala-style reception (with dancing/food and speeches all intermixed throughout the night)
-That I'll look awful in the pictures [I'm not very photogenic--but I've got lots of time to practice lol]
-that it will be too hot and I'll pass out -- totally happened to me at my sisters AUG 2006 wedding.
That I'll fall on my face -- heels + klutz = FAIL [haha what was I thinking?]
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