Post # 1
FI and I have decided we really want to make a donation in lieu of a favor. I know this seems to get a lot of mixed reviews here on the board, but within our group of family and friends, this is common practice.
Anyways, I thought maybe to make it a little different, I would try and find a photo of each guest and include a memory about them. Then I could make a little not that says something about in lieu of favors, we’re making a donation, and we wanted to share a memory with you? Clearly I need some help with the wording. Any ideas?
I’m also kind of stuck with what to do with the few guests I don’t have photos of? (There’s a few cousins bringing plus 1). I was thinking I could get a funny or special one of their date, and say something about how we’ll make new memories tonight, but here’s a photo of __, and I hope it brings a smile to your face. I was thinking something along the lines of a baby picture or them doing something funny as a child.
Just looking to see what others thought of this?
Post # 3
@papercrafter: That sounds like a lot of work/stress in pulling it all together – but if you’re up for the task, I’d say go for it. Does the favor link up with the donation you’re going to make? I like it where the donation and the favor have something to do with one another.
You could also be sure to get pictures of friends and family at the wedding, and pictures of your cousins and their dates, and include the nice photo in your thank you card. This way they’re not getting the typical bride and groom photo (if you’re doing that) but they also get a copy of a nice photo of themselves all dressed up and having fun!
Post # 4
@jasonkatie2014: Thanks for the feedback. I’m not too worried about the work part- it was easier than my original plan of making cookies the day before the wedding lol 🙂 It doesn’t particularly have something to do with each other. Basically we’d donate to the cancer society. My step mom passed away from cancer, FI grand dad did too. This year FI dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer, but not a lot of ppl know. So I wanted to say something about, memories are the most important to us, so we made a donation in hopes that more memories can be made, or something like that.
I’m definitely going to have pics taken, hopefully of everyone 🙂 I like the idea of sending them out when you send the thank you cards. Friends of ours did that and it was such a nice touch.
Post # 5
@papercrafter: so sorry to hear that cancer has had such an effect on your families! I think it would be really touching to do something like this:
a memory board where you and FI make a collage of pictures of “memories” you two have with your step mom, and he with his grandpa. Display it where people get their place cards with a note at the bottom saying something like “memories will last a lifetime” “In your honor, we have made a donation to _______ with the hope that we give others the opportunity to make new memories.” “please look at your seat for a card from us, where we share our favorite memory with you!”
Post # 6
@jasonkatie2014: Thanks for the ideas!! I love your wording for the card at the bottom 🙂
I love the idea of doing some kind of memorial but unfortunately FI is very private and doesn’t like to have something public like that, which I can understand. The wording though is perfect! I think Im going to go with that 🙂
We are having a clothes line of photos too in our loungy area, and I think I’ll include some pics there of our loved ones.
Thanks for your help! 🙂
Post # 7
Me and my husband donated to Cancer Research Uk and we got some pins (the limited edition birds) and we made a little card which said ‘In lieu of favours, we have donated money for Cancer Research UK in memory of a couple of very special people who could not be here to celebrate this important day with us.’ and attached the pin to it. All our guests were talking about it – sometimes you just don’t realise how many lives get affected by this terrible disease – and were very very touched by it.
I know that this isn’t right for everyone but it definitely felt perfect for us – I just didn’t want to spend a cheap on something that was only going to get thrown in the bin the day after the wedding. :o)
Post # 8
@papercrafter: Not sure what kind of donations you are making but maybe something along the lines of:
Just as we have shared joyful memories with you, we would like to share some joy with others by making a donation to (charity).
Memories last longer wedding favors, we have cherished your memories and created new today by donating your “favors” to (charity).