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We are choosing to keep our baby's name a secret until she is born. It's seems like most people share their name, though I do meet some people who keep it secret.
Just wondering how common our choice is.
Are you telling people the name or will it be a surprise?
@spraguebride: I would choose to keep it secret. I might mention some name ideas but nothing definite. This is mainly because I know some people who had their mind set on a name then after the baby was born they suddenly had a change of heart.
I think I've told a friend or two what I'd like to name a girl and a boy, but we're all kinda hush hush about it because they don't want someone else to take the name either. However, I do know people who started calling their son or daughter by their chosen name while in utero - as in at the point they got the ultrasound results at 16 weeks. So by the time the baby was born, it was totally old news. I guess that's another way to go about it.
We had already named bub before he was born, we chose his name before we were even living together.
I've learned that some people just don't think before they speak - so when it's our time to have a liitle one, I'm keeping it secret except from my close friends. I don't want anyone trying to 1) convince me out of choosing the name just because they have nothing better to fill their time with 2) give me tons of alternate names they like instead.
Yeh, we're soooo keeping it secret!
Hard to say, because the due date is 6 weeks away and we still don't have a name...sometimes I kind of wish we did because I am sick of people asking me about it.
I can see the value of keeping it quiet because some people just can't be polite, or you might think you'll change your mind, or a myriad of other reasons, but I have to admit I've kind of rolled my eyes at people in the past who said they were keeping it a secret. Anyways, I don't know what I'll do when I figure out a name- might not matter because I might have her before I know what we'll name her...
We shared. We're Team Green, so it's either or with the names.LOL Some ppl had comments, but oh well. They commented on us being Team Green, so oh well.
I've learned ppl hate things that don't let them add in their 2 cents on your child.LOL
We are both positive that we want to keep it a secret. So much so that we won't even say what names we are thinking of. Maybe when we announce to our friends (next week) we'll have to start saying names we like, but we won't be sharing *the names.* This is because we like surprises and think it's boring when people know the sex and name of your baby months before it's born; and also, because we don't want people's opinions. When we fall in love with a name, and both agree, then that is what we will name our child/ren- whether our parents/friends/siblings/etc hate it or not. Our opinions may be swayed if we hear comments from them, and we simply don't want that.
We told the 2 name options we'd settled on and the one we were leaning toward but I refused to say XYZ will be the name until I saw my baby. Things can change and I didn't want anyone monogramming anything or offering "opinions" on my name choices.
Well if we were having a girl everyone would already know her name because everyone knows what I would like to name a little girl. However we are having a boy and we plan on not telling the name until after he gets here. Besides we haven't chosen a name yet. Working on it and have a names narrowed down it is just not one picked out yet
Baby is due in 9 days- and we have told the grandparents the name, but no friends, co workers etc.
I wish we would have kept it a secret... I asked for opinions here about the name and I only told my parents and my brother.. and my husband told his mom and siblings. but I guess they aren't good at keeping things to themselves because EVERYONE knows... next time we will go about things differently.
I'm due at the beginning of October, and we haven't made a final decision yet, but we do have a short list. I've shared the short list with anyone who asks, BUT only once the person agrees to keep all comments on the names to herself. I really don't want to know that one of the names I love was your dog's name or the name of the girl you didn't like in elementary school :)
@elliestan: "Team Green" means that you aren't finding out the baby's gender until he/she is born.
We waited until she was born, because I didn't want to hear any suggestions or negative comments, especially from my parents. But they now say they can't imagine her having any other name.
Most of my friends are having babies right now, and almost all of them have chosen to keep the name a secret until the baby is born. The rationale I've heard ranges from not wanting to hear criticisms of (or comments on) the name ahead of time (people are much less likely to say, "Oh, I had a dog named Kayla once!" after the baby is born for some reason...), to wanting the freedom to change their mind at the last minute, because at least one couple admitted that they had settled on a name early on but once they met their daughter, it just didn't fit her and they went another direction.
One couple wanted to keep it a secret, but the husband was so funny, he would forget and accidently use the baby's name at least once a week with people. Every time he'd get all freaked out, like, "Oh my gosh! don't tell my wife! You didn't hear that!" hahaha...fortunately his wife is super laid back and just laughed at it. She knows her husband well. :)
I think the best response if you don't want to share is "We haven't decided yet" (even if you have). In my experience "we're keeping it a SECRET" can come off the wrong way and make people feel badly for asking, when in most cases they are just trying to make polite conversation.
Of couse, people may press you to share the names you are considering, in which case I'd say "we're still considering quite a few options, do you have any favorites?" That way it turns it around on them, and all you have to do is nod and smile. :)
I totally agree. I completely understand why anyone wouldn't want to say but the explanation, we're keeping it a secret, I think does have the potential to come off the wrong way.
We told everyone the name of the baby before he was born.
I'm not TTC, but I wanted to mention that most of my family keeps the name a secret until the baby is born. For some reason we have issues with name stealing in my family. For instance, my Aunt used to tell my Grandmother what she wanted to name each of her girls and my Aunt's cousin heard it through the grapevine. The cousin tended to get pregnant shortly after my Aunt and would always want to name her baby the same thing that my Aunt picked out if she had a girl. The cousin had all boys so that didn't end up being a problem.
I'm not pregnant, but I think that when I am I'll keep it a secret. I'm sure it will drive FI's family insane, because you knew his sister's baby names before she was married even and you knew she was pregnant the day she got her BFP. I will not be revealing either thing until much later, it's just what we prefer. I don't have any names picked out, I think it's a horrible idea to pick out a name before you're pregnant because inevitably someone will name their child or pet that name and you'll be furious that they 'stole' your name.
@HannahT: I totally agree, that is how we are playing it. We do not know the name yet. We have like narrowed down to 3 names but we both really really like one certain name and more than likely will go with that. But I just answer we haven't decided on a name yet when asked
KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!. My fiance and i agreed to name our child after his middle name years ago. Although i am not pregnant my sisiter knew that what we were naming our child if it was a boy and she decided to get herself pregnant and steal the name! MY OWN SISTER! i really was truly devistated. it was a vety Malicious thing for her to do and that is what hurt me the most!.
I really, really wanted to keep her name a secret. But once we decided what it would be I wasn't able to lie to all the people asking us. Not that I'd really classify that as a lie, but it was too tough for me to say that we weren't telling anyone yet or that we hadn't named her yet. I do think it's kinda fun to not tell anyone until they're born though.
As a side note, I think it's generally a good policy not to ask what people are naming their baby. If the parents-to-be want it to be public, you will know without asking.
We told family. Friends asked, but I just didn't want to tell them. Since the baby will be a boy, we are pretty definite on his name, so everyone kind of knew. However, I think we will try to keep it a secret next time.
We made the mistake of telling people with our first son.
Not everyone is going to agree with your name 100%, and believe me, if they don't like it before the baby is born, they will let you know. It's so rude!
With our second, we didn't tell anyone.. and we didn't hear one word about the name.
Well we haven't even told anyone we're pregnant yet, but we're already pretty set on one girl and one boy name. I think I'll end up telling people when we're positive 1) because I really couldn't care less about their suggestions/comments and 2) if we decide to change it last minute that's our choice and I guess I don't see why the name has to be set in stone just because you told some people about it. But I get that a lot of times people just don't want to deal with other people's annoyances.
we kept our son's name a secret until he was born because we didn't care to hear people's opinions or consider their reactions. it worked out well cause we changed our minds once or twice and all our friends and family love the name we chose :)
The best question isn't "what are you naming it" but rather "have you picked out a name"
That way, the person you're asking can deside if they want to tell the name or not. Also, no need for the answer of "it's a secret". MUCH less chance of annoying anyone that way, too.
As for us, I told with both the other kids, so we'll probably tell either part or the entire name of any other we will eventually have. To be honest, we've already decided on the names, so all we need now, is the kid! LOL!
I will suggest that if you are not pregnant and don't PLAN of it any time soon, to NOT TELL the names you want to use. There's a big chance someone will like it and use it for THEIR child. :)
A girl I worked with kept their name secret. Once the baby was born, we found out it was Desmond Gene.
We're up for telling people, though. Mostly because the names could still change and we just say, "Right now we like..." = )
DH wants to be on Team Green, and if we do ultimately go that route, we'll pretty much have to wait! I always expected to take a few top favorites in with me and then pick the name after meeting the bebe and seeing what "fits" him/her anyway.
Edited to add: agree about waiting also because I so do not want to hear everyone's opinions on the names or what they think we should use instead.
We've had names picked out for a few years. Everyone knows the names we love. If someone decides to use one of the names we like, well then they have good taste!
The main reason we are not sharing the name is because I learned the hard way when I was planning our wedding, that EVERYONE has an opinion and some people do not think before they speak. Not sure what it is...but people say the rudest things.
I figure when the name is just an "idea", people are likely to give their input but when the baby is born and it's her name, they will know that it's not open to discussion anymore.
I just don't want to hear negative comments. "Oh, I hate that name" "I knew a girl in high school with that name and I hated her" etc....
My husband also thinks it is fun to still have a surprise left. Everyone knows it's a girl...so at least there will be some type of surprise when she is born.
I'm also surprised that "what's the name" is the most common question. EVERYONE asks me this...even people I don't know. Like the checker at the grocery store! haha!
We told people. And I'm glad we did, we got tons of fun personalized gifts for her. Especially b/c her name is Rose, people also bought lots of things with roses on it, gave us roses, etc.
I know a lot of people that keep it a secret. Mostly b/c they're afraid of the comments they'll get from people if they don't like it. But I figured if we were to get those comments it wouldn't be any different before or after she was born.
I love surprises, so when we have a baby, we'll be Team Green AND we'll keep our name choices secret until the baby is born. We've been pretty open about our favorite names with family and friends, so they'll probably have a pretty good guess as to our choices, but they won't know for sure.
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