- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Now that the Christmas season is coming upon us, I noticed when you get older it begins to get tricky with spending time with both your family and your DH’s family. Traditions change and your family grows as more people get added. Everyone wants a piece of you and wants to see you on Christmas.
My question is, what do you do to try and make sure both sets of families are happy? (That’s if both are in town and you can visit them).
For instance if both families want to both make a turkey dinner on Christmas, how do you deal with it? Do you alternate which turkey dinner you go to each year? Or have the dinners on different day (like one on Christmas, one on Boxing Day?) Or you go to your own separate families dinners?
It’s getting difficult because you don’t want to hurt either families feelings.. and they are so used to the way things were and can be stubborn with change..
This is my situation now with me and my fiance.. Christmas Eve we go to DF’s grandma’s house for a pre-Christmas dinner (not turkey), church and open their presents. Then we spend the night at DF’s parents house. Christmas morning we wake up, go to my parents house for Christmas breakfast and open presents there.. Then we go back to DF’s parents house to open presents. At night, I go to my parents house for turkey and he goes to his parents house for turkey. Then me and my family go down to DF’s house for desert and socailizing after. Whew its a hectic busy day. (That’s how we try and make everyone happy).
But once we get married next year, I don’t want to really have turkey dinner separate from my husband then.. Then I am torn with how to “choose” families. Since both families are stubborn and both want to cook turkey dinner on actual Christmas Day (not Boxing Day). I offered to cook turkey dinner next year for both families at our house. To make it a “middle ground” so everyone gets to see us. But won’t work unfortunately because DF’s uncle is in a wheelchair and our house is definitely not wheelchair friendly.. So that’s why dinner is always at his parents house. (And will have to be).
Just wondering how everyone else does this and how it works out and if everyone is fine with it 🙂 Thanks!