Post # 1
So, I got a call from a woman in my parish (have never met her) who left a friendly, interesting message:
“I’m getting married the day after you & was wondering if you’d like to share flowers…what are you thinking of doing for your wedding?”
I’m not sure how to take this call…I’ve never heard of people sharing flowers before, but with our church (which is really beautiful, but on the LARGE side), decorating the Altar & Sanctuary is daunting. Additionally, Fiance & I are actually planning a dual-wedding weekend (we wanted an outdoor ceremony, but being a practicing Catholic, I knew we had to have an in Church ceremony first, so our nuptial Mass is going to be less decorative that most Catholic weddings, since we’re also planning the secondary, outdoor ceremony), so we’re planning on being creatively minimal with the flowers…& we’re building the feel & theme of our ceremony around that.
What would you do? Share flowers that may not match your wedding style/feel or go it alone with appropriate, but minimal decorations?
Post # 3
It can’t hurt to talk to her! A lot of money-saving books recommend doing this and it might end up saving you a lot of cash in the end. For all you know, she might be going for a similar style as you!
Post # 4
i would talk to her. you might end up getting a lot more flowers for the same price that you were originally planning to spend. if you don’t like her style, you don’t have to do it.
Post # 5
I agree…. if you spit the flower cost… that would be GREAT!!! You get married 1st, so she is the one who gets the “hand-me-down” flowers…. lol
Post # 6
I didn’t think about the sharing of flowers until the day before my wedding when I realized there was another bride getting married before me. But it was too late at that point.
If my priest would have said something to me… then maybe I would consider it. I wouldn’t straight out ask, if you wanted to share flowers with me but first ask what your colors are and IF our colors were similar, then I would ask.
Flowers are expensive and I know it was hard trying to figure out who was going to take the flowers to the reception was annoying. My parents ended up just donating the flowers to the church.
Post # 7
I guess I’m just worried (needlessly, since I haven’t even spoken with her yet) that her idea of flowers may be way more than we’re willing to spend…even going “Dutch”. But you’re all right…finding out what she’s thinking doesn’t hurt…if it doesn’t fly with what I’m envisioning for our wedding, nothing lost. If it’s similar to ours, this could work out!
Post # 8
Wouldn’t hurt to call her and let her know what you told us — that you were planning to go minimal because of the second ceremony, but if she wants use of any of your stuff, you’ll let her use/have it for part of the price. She can always add more of her own flair, and you get to recoup part of the cost!
Post # 9
If the style and cost worked for me, I would. I used the Sunday arrangement the church had on hand and addeded in a few arrangements of my own. The church lady in charge of flowers was able to accomadate my color request since no special colors had been requested by he person that donated flowers that week. I got more flowers than I could have afforded on my own, however, they weren’t totally the same as my purchased flowers, but in most of the pics sine the arrangement was in front of the alter my Husband and I blocked that arrangement anyway.
Post # 10
I would totally talk to her. If your colors and aesthetics aren’t too far off I would definitely go for it. Since your wedding is first it also saves you from having to figure out what to do with the flowers after the ceremony.
Post # 11
What were you planning to do with your church-decoration flowers after the ceremony? If you were going to leave them in the church, then you may as well check it out! But if you were going to take them with you to decorate your reception, then it probably wouldn’t work so well. Let us know how it turns out.