Post # 1
I was googling LDRs and found this piece of advice on Wikihow:
“Give them a personal object of yours so in a time of need, where they miss you, they are able to hold on to something that once belonged to you. This will provide comfort, happiness, and the thought of being with you.”
That’s pretty clever! I never thought of that… it would’ve been nice to have something of Bee’s when we were dating long distance! So much of LDRs are virtual that having something physical to hold would have been a nice change of pace.
Did your SO leave something with you when they visited… or vice versa?
Post # 3
I took his sweatshirt, and I wear it when I talk on the phone with him, or when I am lonely and missing him…. cause when we were living in the same part of the continent, I would always steal his sweatshirts.
Only 15 days till I see him!
Post # 4
Mrbee – you are doing a good job with the LDR threads!
Post # 5
MrBee has some LDR experience 😉 so I think he can empathize with us!
I have often wished for something of J’s, but alas… so far we’ve nothing of the sort. I did, however, this past summer stumble upon a set of magnetic kissing keychains (a little boy and little girl), and sent him one. The other is on my keys. They’re pretty unobtrusive, matte silver, so she doesn’t stand out from or bog down my keys, but every time I pull them out to unlock a door, I think of him because of it. 🙂
Post # 6
We did this. When he left for basic training, I took a stuffed hippo and a blanket I had made him. They both smelled like him and it really helped me through those 2 long months when I couldn’t even talk to him. Even now, I sleep with that hippo every night. I dont feel right laying down without it. I also have a couple pairs of his sweatpants that I wear all the time.
He has a few things of mine. I know he has a bottle of my perfume, I’m not sure what else though. lol.
We’re a couple of big softies. 🙂
Post # 7
i’ve got a nice collection of random clothing articles from my guy. i only took one, the rest he has given me. at the rate, he’s going to either have to move here or buy himself a whole new wardrobe!
he does have a shirt of mine that i stuck in a birthday gift i sent him. i’m thinking of sending him another one soon. maybe for christmas
Post # 8
His sweatshirt and sweatpants -I loved them – oh heck I still love them they are still on my side of the closet even though we have been living together for 4 years now and he “borrows” them every now and then!
Post # 9
I sent him my bright turquoise pillowcase when he was deployed. It’s not like he can have regular clothes and stuff….but he got to have it every night =]
He left me a bunch of his stuff when he moved and got deployed (i had the house, it made sense to store it all here) like his St. Pats Sweatshirts from college (it’s a big thing at my school and we wear the tackiest, ugliest, bright green non-hooded sweatshirts EVER and we love it lol) so sometimes i’d wear his fraternity one instead of my sorority one.
Post # 10
We always traded shirts to make the time in between visits easier. I enjoyed having a reminder of him nearby.
Post # 11
Not really, he once forgot his t-shirt from when he stayed and I used to smell it whenever I felt stressed…he took it back to wash it after a week.
Post # 12
I used to steal FI’s shirts to sleep in. That way, I could at least smell him for a little while. Can’t say I miss being LD. *sigh* I’m so glad he graduated HS when he did or I’d have gone nuts.
ETA-now that I think about it, he had a bottle of my perfume. lol. HE liked to smell it because it was my signature scent at the time.
Post # 13
Okay, so J and I don’t have clothes of each others’, but when my ex and I dated in college, I went to France for a semester and just before I left he took a (worn, but not like gross, dirty) shirt of mine and put it in a big ziploc bag, because that way it would smell like me longer. When he missed me he’d open it and smell it.
In retrospect, thats kind of weird. Then again, that ex was kind of weird.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
When we did a long distance thing I always took one of his t-shirts. I could have probably achieved the same effect if I just bought Tide 🙂
But really, “smelling” him was nice sometimes. Weird, probably!
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
Wow, looks like everyone is into smelling!
Post # 16
i borrowed a pair of basketball shorts I wore to bed every night. Maybe it sounds weird now that I say it, but they were his uniform at school (and he still wear them all the time!)
Smells are a really powerfull memory trigger! Everytime i see him I smell his face because it’s so familiar and yummy!