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Haha, I think I'd be more afraid of the sharks too! Shark week simultaneously fascinates and scares the bejesus out of me!
heh, we need some guy perspective here because as the female that I am, I honestly just don't understand how proposing is scary! lol If both people have talked about wanting to get married, and he knows she won't say no, what is there left to be scared about, other than dropping the ring or something? Maybe they are afraid their proposal wont be as good as so and so's? Mr. Joe was afraid of proposing even though we both wanted it and he KNEW without a doubt that I'd say yes (funny thing is, about a minute before he proposed I had told him that I would "rather get married than file for a domestic partnership" and I was totally unsuspecting of the whole thing, even though I probably should have lol) I tried asking him why he was nervous, because it was obvious that I would say yes, but he just said "yeah, knowing that you would say yes definitely helped" but that's all I got out of him lol
I think even when they think you'll say yes, the fact that they're putting their feelings out there makes them look (and feel) vulnerable and less masculine--that said, i still think it's easier than jumping out of a plane or swimming with sharks unless you're asking the wrong girl!!!!
I'm with you, JoesWifey. I don't understand why it's so scary, but it is. I asked my mister and he said that it makes him nervous, which is strange because he knows the answer at this point. The only thing I can think of is that it has something to do with expectations? Maybe they don't want to disappoint?
I can totally see how this can be scary. Personally, I remember the night my FI proposed...his hand were cold, there was a nervous energy about him that I can't explain. It's this nervous energy that crosses over to fear or being scared. Imagine if you were in his shoes; you're about to propose to a woman/man who you love so much and as sure as you are, there's always a chance of them saying no. Maybe it's the fear of unrequited love which makes proposing "scary."
LOL, I know I had a fear about asking my best friend if she would like to be my MOH (which is the closest I can relate to proposing).
Hmmm, interesting.
I think proposing *seems* scarier because they can imagine it clearly and like catlady said they get that nervous energy/pit in stomach of something like speaking in public. But (most) people have no idea what it's like swimming with sharks, so really, it's an unfair comparison. lol.
Well we just jumped out of a plane together a couple weeks ago, so he has no excuses! Haha
Funny. We did a shark dive off the North Shore of Oahu in February. It was one of the coolest experiences I've ever had, but I did have nightmares beforehand. The actual dive was not scary at all - the sharks were beautiful and not interested in trying to bite us. Then again, we were in a cage.
Two months after the shark dive, FI proposed. He did not express anxiety before either event. But it took him long enough to get around to proposing - we were together for 3.5 years. :)
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I heard this on the radio on the way in to work. Apparently, there was a survey conducted to see what men feared most. Coming in at number 1 with 28% was swimming with sharks. Number 2? 23% of those surveyed said "proposing marriage."
Well, at least it's not as scary as jumping out of a plane...according to the article.
You can see the article here:
http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_3411671.html?menu=