(Closed) Sharks more scary than proposing

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

HAHA oh boys are so silly!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Haha, I think I’d be more afraid of the sharks too!  Shark week simultaneously fascinates and scares the bejesus out of me!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

heh, we need some guy perspective here because as the female that I am, I honestly just don’t understand how proposing is scary! lol If both people have talked about wanting to get married, and he knows she won’t say no, what is there left to be scared about, other than dropping the ring or something? Maybe they are afraid their proposal wont be as good as so and so’s? Mr. Joe was afraid of proposing even though we both wanted it and he KNEW without a doubt that I’d say yes (funny thing is, about a minute before he proposed I had told him that I would "rather get married than file for a domestic partnership" and I was totally unsuspecting of the whole thing, even though I probably should have lol) I tried asking him why he was nervous, because it was obvious that I would say yes, but he just said "yeah, knowing that you would say yes definitely helped" but that’s all I got out of him lol

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think even when they think you’ll say yes, the fact that they’re putting their feelings out there makes them look (and feel) vulnerable and less masculine–that said, i still think it’s easier than jumping out of a plane or swimming with sharks unless you’re asking the wrong girl!!!!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can totally see how this can be scary.  Personally, I remember the night my FI proposed…his hand were cold, there was a nervous energy about him that I can’t explain.  It’s this nervous energy that crosses over to fear or being scared.  Imagine if you were in his shoes; you’re about to propose to a woman/man who you love so much and as sure as you are, there’s always a chance of them saying no.  Maybe it’s the fear of unrequited love which makes proposing "scary."

LOL, I know I had a fear about asking my best friend if she would like to be my MOH (which is the closest I can relate to proposing).

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios

Hmmm, interesting.

I think proposing *seems* scarier because they can imagine it clearly and like catlady said they get that nervous energy/pit in stomach of something like speaking in public. But (most) people have no idea what it’s like swimming with sharks, so really, it’s an unfair comparison. lol.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well we just jumped out of a plane together a couple weeks ago, so he has no excuses! Haha

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Funny.  We did a shark dive off the North Shore of Oahu in February.  It was one of the coolest experiences I’ve ever had, but I did have nightmares beforehand.  The actual dive was not scary at all – the sharks were beautiful and not interested in trying to bite us.  Then again, we were in a cage. 

Two months after the shark dive, FI proposed.  He did not express anxiety before either event.  But it took him long enough to get around to proposing – we were together for 3.5 years.  🙂

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

i think my FI is more scared of centipedes then anything..

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