Shave, Wax, Trim, or Other?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Shave, Wax, Trim, Electrolysis, Au Naturel, or Other?
    Shave : (87 votes)
    48 %
    Wax : (34 votes)
    19 %
    Trim : (35 votes)
    19 %
    Electrolyis : (7 votes)
    4 %
    Au Naturel : (11 votes)
    6 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    9856 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    ladyamalthea:  currently I trim and keep it pretty close and I wax the bikini line.  I have done a brazillian but I couldn’t deal with the pain so it did it once and never again.

    Post # 3
    1108 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m also in the sensitive skin camp, and I’m pretty scared of the pain during and after. I’ve also had really bad skin reactions just to using a different kind of shaving cream so I just stick with the same routine of shaving.

    I don’t like having any hair at all but I’d rather take the effort to maintain myself than let someone see my lady bits while I’m screaming in pain.

    Post # 4
    8387 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    ladyamalthea:  I’ve heard that sugaring works well and is less painful. 

    Post # 5
    1256 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Brazilian. But I want to get do electrolysis and get rid of it permamenently. I have a high pain tolerance. 

    Post # 6
    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    ladyamalthea:  I shave everything. I could never wax because you have to let so much hair grow back before you can take it off again. I shave every day, even the smallest amount of stubble annoys me. 

    Post # 7
    4634 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I recommend laser hair removal. I was religiously getting brazillians every 4 weeks and it hurt like a bitch and never got better, ever.

    Laser has been the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I’m currently doing brazillian and my armpits. The pain is marginal in comparison.

    Post # 8
    328 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    The first time is for sure the worst (or if you let it grow out way way too long again like I did recently), but if you go every 4-6 weeks, it’s really not that bad on the repeat visits.  I actually have VERY sensitve skin and am a HUGE wuss too.  I can’t stand being in pain or uncomfortable, like no tolerance.  But the waxing isn’t like constant pain.  For me the pain is only in that instant.  Like OW, okay.  OW.. Okay.  OW.. Okay and it takes like 15 mintues total.  I don’t know.  I wouldn’t say that it doesn’t hurt, that’s really not that bad to me.  And you do need to let it grow somewhat in between but depending on how often you go, it’s really not that much, and it’s not subbly, it’s softer.  I’m quite a fan for now, though I agree with KC-2722:  if I can convince myself it’s safe and I can afford it, I would TOTALLY go laser!

    Post # 9
    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My first experience was similar, but it really DOES get better the more you do it! I’ve been getting brazilians every 6-8 weeks for a few years now, and there’s very little pain at this point. (Getting my upper lip waxed stings more!)

    Another thing to consider is soft wax (removed with paper/cloth strips) vs hard wax (removed by the wax itself) b/c you might find that you prefer one over the other. I went to a salon once – and ONLY ONCE! – that used soft wax for bikini waxes, and it was EXCRUCIATING!!

    Post # 10
    920 posts
    Busy bee

    I shave. however, my guy doesnt mind the natural look long (not like crazy long hair, still trimmed). Ive never waxed before as everyone I know has had a bad experience but it does seem pretty effective, I will take the waxing plunge – someday. When I build up enough courage. 

    But i used to use nair hair removal when i was a teen to shave like my legs but never on my “lady” I may try that.

    Post # 11
    419 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Fiance prefers a natural look, which I’m grateful for. I used to get horrible razor bumps from shaving. We’re both feminists and he never makes me feel like I need to alter my body to be sexy. I do shave my armpits and legs- some habits never die, I guess, and I don’t think I’d be ready for people’s reactions. Thankfully, nobody sees my bikini area except the fiance! 

    Post # 12
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

    ladyamalthea:  Au Natural – I really, really, REALLY hate that women have been made to feel like it’s something to be ashamed of.

    Sorry but Brazilian waxes are barbaric and unless you’re working with scar tissue downstairs… hurts like crazy.  Risk of infection and ingrown hairs is high.  It’s just not worth it.  And all because the latest trends tell you that you’re disgusting if you have hair on your vagina.  It’s ridiculous.  

    A lot of women claim it’s just their personal preference but I’m quite certain that if it wasn’t for all the shaming going on about pubic hair……that number would be very, very small.  I think women are brainwashed.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  Derp.
    Post # 13
    3360 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I shave, but I would prefer to wax – I just can’t stomach the cost right now.  Maybe someday when we have a lot more flex in our budget!  I have had Brazilian waxes before, and it really does get much easier if you keep up with it (I also have sensitive skin); it also isn’t nearly as annoying when it’s growing out, because the new growth is soft, not prickley like with shaving.

    I would consider electrolysis, but from what I understand it doesn’t really work on redheads – I might be wrong, but when I’ve looked into it casually before I remember reading this.

    Post # 14
    3360 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Derp:  Just to clarify, I don’t find my pubic hair to be gross or ugly, I don’t feel “pressured” into removing it, and I don’t do it for my husband.  I just find it much more comfortable to be hair free.  I’ve tried letting it grow back a few times in the past decade or so, and it drove me nuts – I feel cleaner and more comfortable without any hair down there.  That’s the only reason I do it.  I’m a feminist, I’m not brainwashed, and I’m not shamed into hair removal.  It’s ok if you prefer to keep your pubic hair, but please don’t assume that all women who choose to remove theirs are weak-minded sheep.

    Post # 15
    4673 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I shave, but if I had the money I would get electrolysis.  

    Derp:  I started shaving it in college, not because of societies pressures, but because my hair down there was uncomfortable.  I am a natural red head and it was very thick and itchy.  It made me feel dirty.  It had nothing to do with feeling sexy, or men.  It had everything to do with me feeling comfortable.

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