- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Let me give some background. The person in question is my DH’s niece. She was at one time our part time nanny while her first husband was deployed. Well she didnt like me from the start and even tried to get DH to stop seeing me when we were dating because in her words “She isnt good enough for you or our family.” DH then bf told her that who he dated was his decision and she should pay attention to her own marriage. She and her then husband and only dated for 3 months then got married.
Well she got really upset, decided that she didnt want to stay with us when I started the move in process. Well now she is divorced from her first husband. Now married to the second because she got pregnant unexpectedly…as in apparently she doesnt know what birth control is.
So they got married, baby is due in a few months and then I got a shower invite. I cant attend anyway because DH and I are military and we will be in the middle of a move to another state the day of her shower, but the point is that on the invite she states if you cant come then please RSVP and choose a gift from the registery to send. WTF?
So if Im not attending I should still send a gift???!?!?!?
If this was the only badmouthing incident I wouldnt care, however she has been badmouthing me for two years. First to DH sister, her mother, then to DH brother, her uncle and their kids. Even to DH’s cousins we met while traveling on vacation heard that I was a low class piece of trash who was a snob. Which isnt true and the cousins being alot like me said that they would never believe a word she said after all that.
The worst in all this, she opened a facebook chat with a few of her closest friends and wrote to them that she is inviting people who cant attend because she knows they will send a gift. I think she meant to include someone else in the convo and accidentally clicked my name. Her friends were saying that was a great idea because then if she gets double items she can return them for money and if she invites people from far away with shipping cost they just might send cash. WTF!!!!
So do I send a gift even though it was rude for her to ask for one? Do I just RSVP and not send a gift? Can I just forego it all and not do anything?
DH says its up to me because he realizes she is a drama queen. So what do I do besides the proper thing and text the RSVP. Yes I said text. Included on the shower invite is the phone number to text the RSVP.